Putting Dale Carnegie’s Book To The Test: Round 1 – Travel Dynamics

People! Welcome back to my blog and it’s going to be HAD!

I’ve been under-the-weather the past couple of days and couldn’t focus whatsoever on typing because of my constant runny nose, so I apologize for being away (somewhat).  With that being said, I had a situation that came up in regards to a couple of voice notes that could help some of you analyze worry situations.

Best Friend + End-of-The-Year Trip

As some of you may know, I’ll be hopping on a Cathay Pacific flight to head back home to Phoenix, Arizona to spend the holidays — or am I?

A troubled situation came into full-circle when I heard from my best friend that she could be in a relationship by years end.  Now, some of you are probably wondering, “how is that a situation?”  Given the fact that I’ll be staying at her house, spending Christmas and New Years with her family, and even a snowboarding trip on the horizon…..this could be a recipe for disaster.  The dynamics could be completely thrown off because someone is being added to the group; and not only do I not know what his personality is, but also the fact that he’s my best friend’s boyfriend.  So, what did I do to figure this out?

Put A Stop-Loss On Your Worry

This is the most critical when it comes to friendships.  Putting your feelings out there and calling it for how you see it.  If you don’t do this, you can let things fester which then leads to a debacle.  Get out on the table and then the “ball is on their court.”

What’s The Worse That Can Happen?

Well, if I cancel a trip that’s already book, it could possibly make the relationship regress.  Why? Well, cancelling a trip it not only offensive, but having already booked it….that means I seriously believe that something is imminent.  So, I asked myself this question and well….the worse is that her and I will not talk as often as we do now.  In the future, who knows if I ever go back to America to visit (within the next five to ten years) because she has been the only person worth saying (the story about my family is a hefty one). That’s about it though.

Also, I’ll end up going to UBUD in Bali for a getaway in a sanctuary….that’s literally the worse.  Or, I’ll go to the bustling heart of HCMC in Vietnam.  Funny how I deem those two options as the “worse case scenario.” LOL

How To Analyze And Solve Worry Problems.

What am I worrying about?

What can I do about it?

Here’s what I’m going to do about it.

When am I going to start doing it?

These techniques are GOLD! Start implementing them in your daily life!

Podcast

 

The Truth About Affirmations

One of my students said earlier, “why do you always say you’re handsome? That you eat alone? That you love yourself?”

I retorted in the grandest of fashions – stating the hate opinions I’ve received that formulated a pseudo reality that I wasn’t able to escape from for several years.

The pain, which I’ve talked about so many times, was unbearable.  The opinions of Thai people; yes, that “land of smiles” turned “land of hate”……turned into my dominant thought.  Therefore, everyday I went on that pity party; I pointed fingers at everyone saying, “you must hate black men.”  Everyone who gave me an ambiguous look was portrayed as a racist through my eyes.

It wasn’t until I started reading Lisa Nichols ‘Abundance Now’ book…only to realize that those particularly demonic opinions of me became my blueprint.  Every time I had an opportunity, I would go on that “ain’t it awful” whiney b**** party and talk about how bad Thai people were.  What happened after that? I attracted to me some of the worst snakes in all of the free world (the wife and girlfriend tourists) that tried doing everything to ruin my life.

So, I decided to change that destructive habit.  That reaffirming negative thought that I spewed like toxic everyday – even subconsciously.  I needed to reinstill the belief in myself that ‘yes,’ I am a wonderfully handsome man that was put on this planet to bring so much more value and true worth to people across the planes of six continents.  And so it began.  I constantly berate my front office staff everyday about me being handsome….and remember, they might think about it in a conceit way, but it doesn’t matter what they think or say about me.  I was in a battle of my life just 2 years ago.  I had women from Thai Airways threaten to “blacklist” me and also told me that she would “stick the dogs on me” for whatever reason.  This is what happens when you reaffirm negative thoughts continuously over a long period of time.  You attract heinous people into your life with an insidiously malicious agenda.

I’m pledging to you now to change your language.  Tell the world who you REALLY are, not the opinions you’ve accepted from other people-turned vision you see through your own eyes.

Change it, or you’ll be changed.

September – The Last Third of The Year. New Years Resolutions, Anyone?

Ahhh…the month of champions.  Going back to just a year ago….this was the month before a soon-to-be vacation in Bali, Indonesia.  Here in Thailand, this is the month when the climate begins to cool down.  This is when everything that has happened all year long begins to come into fruition.  The excitement, for whatever reason, is reverberating and I can’t even contain myself.  I’m like a 5 year old child on Christmas morning, although Christmas is months away and rarely do I celebrate it.

Perhaps it could be because I’m heading back to Phoenix, Arizona for the second time this year.  It could also be because I’ll be going on a snowboarding trip just after Christmas; staying in a log cabin while eating s’mores.  Yes, the end-of-the-year trip is looming, but that’s probably only 10% of my excitement.

Just being able to have another opportunity, and opportunities flow in one after another is just astounding.  Having my voice heard and my words read all around the world with my podcast and blog; becoming noticed by big time people while doing podcasts with influencers all over the world.  This is just so EXCITING for me!

At the dawn of this year, American websites and Americans in general were saying, “oh, my New Years Resolutions are…..”  It seems that THAT, is an after thought.  I shocked myself this year; in more ways than one, and the most amazing part about it is I’ve exceed not only the New Years Resolutions, but jumped probably 2 years ahead of my time.

What 2018 has in store is quite frankly resounding.  Tedx, Kazakhstan, Kyrgyzstan, Egypt, investments, retirement plans, ridiculous monthly salary, new career path, and so many other things.  I’ve created all of this excitement first in my head so I can hold it in my hand.

Those of you who are probably reading this should know something.  That something is….what do you really want in life? Do you think that life is suppose to be and mean getting a career, make a lot of money (or lack thereof) in a slave job, get married, grow old then leave the body temple? Is that what life is? Maybe for some people….but I love to side with the Dylan Thomas quote, “rage, rage against the dying of the light.”  I’m making noise and as Lisa Nichols says, “be unapologetic about who you are!”  These quotes proliferate within me and today I woke up feeling the best I’ve ever had in my entire life.  What was the feeling? I have no idea, but based on my podcast this morning….I feel that what’s about to happen in my life is going to change the trajectory of everything.

Here’s to a wonderful September! Here’s a toast to a remarkable year up until September….and now it’s time to make more noise for the last third!

Travel Tips + Not Learning From Mistakes

I was chatting yesterday with one of students and she was completely dumbfounded at the fact that I don’t get currency before traveling.  I realized that the third time it happened, which recently came in Maldives, could’ve been the disaster of a lifetime.

Yes, maybe some of you already do so, but I’ll do a small breakdown, plus a podcast on the basic necessities in preparation for travel.

Travel Tip: 1 – Get Currency In Your Respective Country

I’m not talking bank currency with high interest rates, I’m talking about the underground places that aren’t well known.  For example, SuperRich in Thailand has the best rates in Thailand while banks such as KTB, SCB, and others are horrific in buying and selling.

Travel Tip 2: PLASTIC!

I’m not a big fan of credit cards, but in case of disasters, such as the one I experienced in Maldives a week ago, you will be saved by the bell.  I literally had to make two final purchases before my car was completely shutdown by my bank in America due to “suspicion of fraudulent charges.”

In the real world, having something marked “Visa” or “MasterCard” is your I’m-Not-Going-To-Die-Card out of any situation, but because I don’t have one, I was literally doomed.

After an array of conversations with my students yesterday, apparently going with UoB or HSBC (Hong Kong banks if I’m not mistaken), would save me a great deal of trouble.   Oh, and to throw out another example, I wouldn’t have gone through hell with Sheraton Hotels because if I had a credit card at the time of check-in, they would’ve froze my credit card’s funds which ultimately would’ve been released (compared to my debit).

Here’s the podcast from my not-learning experiences and more!

My Top Islands Around The World (So Far)

So, after going to Maldives, I thought to myself, “man, people around the world should know what are the best islands to go to.”

Now, don’t get me wrong, there are a lot of islands out there in Europe that I do not know about, but from my personal perspective, these three islands I’ve gone to give a cultural diversity punch to it.  In Europe, it would predominantly be European and possibly American, which means the diversity would lack compared to the places I’ve been to.  So, with that being said, and a podcast at the bottom for some audio fun, LET’S DIVE IN!

Number 3

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Maldives!

Hey, it’s not a sad number 3….it still trumps Krabi, Phuket, Koh Phangan and every other beach in Thailand – period.

Maldives is a cluster of islands sitting in the middle of the Indian ocean.  It’s really to access if you live in India, Bangladesh, Sri Lanka and even in some parts of Asia like Myanmar, Thailand, etc.

Being able to island hop, seeing turquoise waters everywhere and tasting some of the super fine cuisine on the island is a massive plus.  The diversity is amazing.  I was served by a gorgeous Balinese the first day at a restaurant a couple hundred meters away from my hotel.  Next day, when I went on a full-day excursion, I met people from all over the world such as Indonesia & Greek chefs, to Egyptian friends.  The clean streets and the super relaxed culture makes this a great destination.

There isn’t much of a nightlife.  After 3 nights, you’ve pretty much seen it all, unless you’re that couple who loves to relax on a private island for weeks at a time.  This is a destination to escape all the hustling and bustling of the developing world.  Period.

Number 2

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Hawaii!

Having traveled here twice, this is a ridiculous wonderful place.  You have Diamond Head overlooking Waikiki, Aulani Disney Resort, Pineapple Plantation, Turtle Beach in the north…just so much! Oh, that was just on Honolulu.  For those with an extra bit of cash, you have the Big Island and Maui, which has cliff-jumping and other insane activities, waiting for you.

Hawaii, however, is not a place for single travellers.  The first time I went there was a disaster.  I was bored out of my mind and there isn’t a place where a single guy can walk in and chat it up.  No way.  People go with groups, families (lots of Japanese tourists) and it’s just not that type of place like Phuket or Krabi.  If you’re a solo traveler, Thailand (unfortunately, lol) is one of the best places to go because you can meet people easily.

The second time I went there I had the trip of a life-time with my best friend Alissa.

Rent-A-Car! – See the island in it’s entirety by renting the car! Walking up and down Waikiki can get a bit boring.  Taking the bus is even worse because they rarely come.

Consider The Other Islands – Plan it out according to your schedule, because the other islands houses things that the ultra-touristy Honolulu doesn’t.

Number 1

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BALI!

My absolute favorite place on the planet.  No, it wasn’t because of the airport staff paying “la bamba” while I was boarding my plane to leave.  It was a combination of the wondrous hospitality, breathtaking views, remote beaches, night safari, and the resounding culture that was jaw-dropping.

In Bali, you don’t just have an island, and you don’t have a very commercialized city like you do in Honolulu.  You have Jimbaran to the south, which is full of resorts.  You have the ridiculously outlandish party scene in Kuta, which is full of awesome Australians.  You have Ubud about an hour north, which is the most gorgeous jungle one could ever imagine.  You have Komodo island, which is full of creatures that are said to have been around at the same time as Sabre-tooth Tigers and Woolly  Mammoths.  Mt. Bromo, which provides the most compelling views of the island.  This place is just heaven.  When I left, I almost cried.  Going from a place like Bali, back to Bangkok….you can imagine why (LOL).  I was there for a holiday and a competition.  Special shout out to The Sintesa Jimbaran for the best service I’ve ever had (until Maldives, but you’re still in my heart).

These are three islands…and the top three I’ve been to in my lifetime.  Honestly, depends what side of the world you’re coming from.  If you’re coming from America, Hawaii is your best bet.  If you’re in Asia, you’re in a perfect range because you can visit either of the three.  If you’re in Australia, Bali is just an 8 hour ride away….Hawaii could be more difficult to get to (but not anymore because Jetstar Asia now goes there).  If you’re in Thailand, obviously Bali and Maldives.

I will give it to you like this: forest, sea, partying = Bali.  Trekking, hiking, beaches, some nightlife, some islands = Hawaii. Super relaxation and island hopping, along with the best waters in the world = Maldives.

Podcast

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/my-top-three-islands-on-the-planet-in-my

Maldives = Last Day! Do’s and Don’ts, Is It Worth The Money, & Other Questions In My Podcast

Quick blog and a full podcast on the breakdown of my trip.  One of the most important things to remember is…..

CURRENCY!

Apparently everyone knew to get USD except ME before coming here.  This was the biggest hassle ever and it almost terminated my trip the first day.

I originally came here with Thai baht thinking I can exchange money at the airport….nope.

They apparently accept USD, but I’m not sure about GBP, Euro, JPY.  To be safe, exchange your money in your respective country before making your way down here.

Is it worth the money?

Is Bali/Honolulu/Fiji worth going to more than Maldives?

Worth the budget?

How many days/nights?

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/maldives-trip-finished-my-personal-opini

 

Maldives Day II: The Resurgence

What a magnificent day on the island.  Speedboat, Egyptians, Malaysians, Kenyans, Indians, delicious food, unbelievable resort, gorgeous bungalows, fish of all sorts, crabs crawling on the rocks….I can’t be thankful enough!

Now, this will all be explained more thoroughly in my podcast (at the bottom of the page), but I’ll give a nice rundown with some photos to fulfil your appetite.

Dentist + Engineer

When I first entered the speedboat, I saw a girl staring at me – a blank stare.  Now, I have the type of charisma that resonates, but I was a bit afraid of her (lol).  Nonetheless, I realized that both her and her friend were wonderful within the first 15 minutes of reaching the island, and I befriended them shortly after.  4th year dental student from Cairo and a 3rd year engineering student from another state.  Boy, we had stories!

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This beach, to say the very least, was captivating beyond comprehension. The bungalows that sat off in the distance, the people who relaxed on the sandy beaches, the kids doing the snorkelling off in the middle of the….sea, the tourists flocking around the island and even the extraordinary buffet.  Man, if only there was a little cloud cover.

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What I found most compelling about the trip was….was I even suppose to be here? When it was 12:30, I told my friends, “man, I should be in the sky right now heading back to Thailand.”  Amazing how that works.  I also met another teacher from a southern state in Malaysia who teaches English (Malaysian descent) and one of his students placed first in a public speaking competition.  I’m a public speaker.

How are we all connected? It’s so intriguing knowing I met a dentist (I used to be a dental assistant), an engineer (I teach so many engineers), and a teacher (whereas the both of us teach English and public speaking).  I attracted these individuals into my life because of what I do and the mindset I have….even my past jobs and experiences.

And in the following photo is the morning sunrise (just an hour ago)…..there should be a greater word than grateful.

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Express Inn at Hulhumale, Maldives – The Lady That Changed My Life Forever!

Buckle up — because this is going to be a life-changing blog.

Man, oh man.  I’m still trying to figure out exactly what took place yesterday.  Here, if you guys don’t want to read, here’s the podcast….and I’ll write what happened, on top of some things you need to know if you travel to Male, Maldives.

Let’s just say that when I came here, I was unable to obtain any currency.  No Maldivian Rupiah is made available for anyone.  I tried selling my Thai baht at the airport and they simply said, “we don’t accept it.”

I replied, “guys, I have no other money. I tried using my US bank card at the ATM and it didn’t work!  He said, “I’m sorry.  That’s the only way you can get money.”

After following that, my bank got 3 suspicious transactions and restricted my card immediately, so I had to use an app to call back to America and explain the situation.  20 minute conversation lead to a wonderful assistant telling me, “listen, you have only two transactions left that you can use.  We will block your card and send you a new one.”

I said, “omg, could you stay on the line so I can buy an Air Asia ticket for tomorrow to head back home?”  She followed suit, along with me paying for my hotel and that was the end.  My what was suppose to be three day trip to the ultra-gorgeous island named Maldives was coming to a horrific stop in just 24 hours –  all because I couldn’t get Maldivian currency with my Thai Baht or USD.

After buying and sorting everything out, I sat seaside watching kids run around and play; jet skis flying at high-speeds in the distance, wonderful people swimming out to a platform 50 meters off the shore so they can run around on the platform.  Myself? Wound on my leg that was continuing to fester, developing into something much scarier, drowned in my sorrows while putting my hands atop my head thinking, “why me?”  All I wanted to do was come here and have an incredible holiday.

The Turning Point

A Bangladeshi gentleman who works at the front desk invited me for dinner…on him.  It was 7pm and I fell asleep because I wasn’t hungry.  I was in REM when I heard some door knocks and a man speaking outside.  I knew it was him, so I jumped out of bed, opened the door and he was heading downstairs saying, “don’t worry, food and everything is paid for.”

I said, “huh?”

He said, “we’re taking care of you. Come downstairs.”

I said, “man, I’m just going to get some sleep.”

He insisted, “come downstairs.”

And so I did.  I went outside and there was the woman who I first shook hands with at the airport.  The events that followed are events that I’ll be telling for the rest of my life.  Podcast down below.

Air Asia To Maldives = Spectacular

Air Asia, you have proved me wrong. What a spectacular flight heading into Male, Maldives. Also, this was the first ever non-stop flight directly from Don Meung International Airport. Normally there are stop overs in either Kuala Lumpur or Colombo, Sri Lanka.  A320-200 are revolutionized aircraft and they do an incredible job flying over water. Now, flying to Malaysia or Singapore is a pain in the ass because of what I call “bad air.”  

Can I add that it was on-time? Ok, maybe 13 minutes between takeoff, but fair enough. Malaysia Airlines was a whopping 2.5 hours later and they just shrugged their shoulders incredulously. Lol. 

Can I also add that I fell into lust? First, women with short-hair strike a nerve. This was the most beautiful Thai girl I’ve ever seen in my life: flight attendant. Yikes! Tomoko of Singapore Airlines is still in my heart from four years ago, but this particular flight attendant got my attention. Furthermore, this was the first flight I’ve ever seen a flight manager wearing an off-color compared to the rest of the attendants. She was wearing black and everyone else was wearing red. Interesting.

Food – the best airline food I’ve ever had on any plan in 11 years – period. Penang pork, fried egg and steamed rice never tasted so good before in my life. On top of that, how’s it better than some 5-star Airlines food?

Anyways, I’m actually writing this on the plane and it’s going to post immediately after getting wifi. So, it’s a relatively short blog; however, those who are looking for an easy, cheap, quick flight to one of the most gorgeous islands on the planet from Bangkok – Air Asia. 

Done!

The Night Before….Maldives

Man, just sitting here on the night before, pondering how I was able to get to this juncture in my life.  Even looking back and trying to connect the dots is hard.  Vietnam and Bali last year.  America, Malaysia, Maldives, Malaysia, America this year? I mean, how?

Is it because I’m an aggressive saver? Live on pennies? No, no, no….I live on a side of the planet where there are so many gorgeous islands around.  I have Fiji, which is only 9 hours away.  I have Samoa, Tonga, Tuvalu, Tokelau, and other French Polynesian islands sitting in the middle of the Pacific; along with almost a hundred other countries within a 10-hour plane ride away.

A lot of you are probably wondering what I do.  Well, I’m not an English teacher, I’m a life teacher.  I’m a teacher of living life, and there aren’t many of us out there in the world.  I have an unbelievable job that allows me to take vacations when I want, and, of course, where I want.  I live in a country whereas I can save 70% of my salary every month.  I have opportunities whereas companies of all kinds are approaching me to teach there staff because I’m just “different” from other teachers.  All of these things happened after I went through the unbelievable amount of hell.

Yes, this wasn’t just given to me. I had to battle the senseless comments that revolved around the color of my skin.  I had to walk off a campus of a school because they said, “no, black teacher.” Some of our greatest motivations come gift-wrapped in sandpaper.  These things are all part of the process.  It’s part of the journey.  Don’t take it personal….although it’s on a very person level.  Just know that with every negative circumstance or circumstance in general, something is trying to emerge.  When that something emerges, you’ll understand why it happened to begin with.

I want to thank all my Asians, Americans, Europeans, Africans and South Americans from all around the world for tuning into my podcast and blogs.  This is the blog before serenity.  Am I ready?