Arsenio’s ESL Podcast: Season 4 – Episode 7 – Life Skills – Social Skills – Representational Systems

I’m injecting a bit of personal development into this lesson! Boy, what I learned over the weekend at a seminar was unbelievably amazing. I learned so much about how human beings communicate, and since then, I’ve applied it to my life and it has worked miracles! Here are the systems.

I’m injecting a bit of personal development into this lesson! Boy, what I learned over the weekend at a seminar was unbelievably amazing. I learned so much about how human beings communicate, and since then, I’ve applied it to my life and it has worked miracles! Here are the systems.

Here are the systems….

Visual (V)

People who are visual often stand or sit with their heads and/or bodies erect, with their eyes up. They will be breathing from the top of their lungs. They often sit forward in their chair and tend to be organised, neat, well – groomed and orderly. They are often thin and wiry. They memorise by seeing pictures and are less distracted by noise. They often have trouble remembering verbal instructions because their minds tend to wander. A visual person will be interested in how something LOOKS. Appearance are important to them.

Auditory (A)

People who are auditory will often move their eyes sideways. They breathe from the middle of their chest. They typically talk to themselves and can be easily distracted by noise (some even move their lips when they talk to themselves). They can repeat things back to you easily, they learn by listening and usually like music and talking on the phone. They memorise by steps, procedures and sequences (sequentially). The auditory person likes to be TOLD how they’re doing and responds to a certain tone of voice or set of words. They will be interested in what you have to say.

Kinesthetic (K)

People who are kinesthetic (K) will typically be breathing from the bottom of their lungs, so you’ll see their stomach go in and out when they breathe. They often move and talk very slowly. They respond to physical rewards and touching. They also stand closer to people than a visual person. They memorise by doing or walking through something. They will be interested in something if it “feels right or if you can give them something they can grasp.

Auditory Digital (AD)

This person will spend a fair amount of time talking to themselves. They will want to know if something “makes sense”. The auditory digital person can exhibit characteristics of the other major representational system.

Now, let’s read the text and see if using these systems can help?

How to get your point across

 
Imagine this situation. You’re at your very first job interview. The interviewer asks you to talk about yourself. You look down, you don’t know where to start and you can’t think what to say. There’s an awkward silence and you start to panic. Now imagine another situation. A friend makes a comment that upsets you. In the first instance you say nothing. But then you feel yourself getting angry and you explode and tell them what you really think!
 
Sounds familiar? Well, you;re not alone. We all have difficulty in expressing ourselves sometimes – we struggle to find the right words or our emotions get in the way. Yet effective communication is perhaps the most important life skills, particularly at work. Employers are often looking to hire people with strong interpersonal skills; they want people who will work well in a team and be able to communicate effectively with colleagues, customers and clients. And interpersonal skills are not just important in the workplace. Our personal and social lives can also benefit. People will good interpersonal skills are usually perceived as optimistic, calm and confident – qualities that are often appealing to others.
 
If we are more aware of how we interact with others, and remember to practise, we can all improve our ability to communicate. Here are our top four tips.
 
Tip 1 Think it through It’s often difficult to come up with the right words on the spur of the moment, so give some thought to what you want say. For instance, before an interview, think of answers to possible questions or say them out loud. Even better, try rehearsing with a friend. If you have to give an opinion, pause to organise your thoughts before you start to speak.
 
Tip 2 Be assertive Being assertive means expressing your ideas in a way that doesn’t offend others. At the same time, it means speaking your mind without being afraid of what people might think. If you feel yourself getting angry or upset, take a deep breath and calm yourself. if necessary, take a short break from the conversation and come back to it when your head is clearer.
 
Tip 3 Remember to listen Too often we’re so busy trying to get across our opinions that we forget to listen to what others have to say. Communications is a two – way process, which means trying to see the other person’s point of view. Ask questions to help you understand or summaries what they’ve just said. If you show you’re prepared to listen to others, they’re much more likely to listen to you.
 
Tip 4 Watch your body language A lot of communication is non – verbal – more than 50% in fact. If someone has their arms folded, they probably feel defensive or aggressive. Facial expressions can tell us what a person is thinking, too. It’s important to interpret these signals, and to be aware of your own body language. Sit calmly, keep eye contact – and remember to smile while you speak.

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New Morning Routine!

This has been a long time coming, but this absolutely super-charges my morning like no other morning has before!

It all starts with the evening though.  If I don’t have a successful evening and sleep after 9:30pm, it’ll throw a curveball at my mornings and I’ll have to take out one of the above, which could be detrimental.

Anywho, let’s get into these pictures.

MindValley Podcast

So, I’ve been a loyal follower of MindValley for the longest and absolutely love Vishen as a speaker.  He speaks so much truth and has written excellent books – all while creating a 300 person company that creates courses for people worldwide.  This is an amazing humanity + company; and in addition, they have a podcast!  The podcasts features some of the best speakers around the world and my absolute favorite, without any doubt, is Lisa Nichols.  The Lisa Nichols podcast on MindValley’s podcast is the one where she’s in Cancun giving a guided meditation.  This is the first thing I listen to upon waking up because I’m still in the “dream consciousness.”  If I can have incredible feelings, especially of Joy in that state, I set my soul on fire!.

Glenn Harold

Immediately following that, I love doing my guided meditation.  At this time, I’m hoping that I’m pretty much wide awake so I don’t fall back to sleep.  If I am, I can focus much more on the affirmations and guidance.  My favorite one for the mornings is the “Procrastination” one, because after the program is finished, I’m so focused with my morning tasks.  The ones I use to go to sleep are often Solfeggio, which is an ancient, 6-tone scale used in the recordings.

After that, I officially wake-up with my energy higher than ever because I’m focused on pure gratitude.  I then go to YouTube and put on a specific video whereas a man is stating affirmations over a 15-minute video.  I put this on my bose speaker and go into the kitchen to take some immune support, joint-support, and Thermobond (Herbalife) tablets.

I take a pre-workout (depends if I’m working out) and hop into the shower, giving grace to everything in my life.  This lasts from about 5:15am – 6am.  After that, I can tackle the world.

 

Darren Hardy: Find Your Fight + Goals

So, my first podcast (which will be below the first part of this in terms of finding your fight) was uploaded yesterday.  I didn’t have time to attach the blog with it, and I also got a real time text message about a job denying me work and see how I reacted to it.  Great experience. Lol

And into “finding your fight.”

Now, Darren Hardy talked about using friction, anger and hate to press up against something you don’t like.  I strongly disagree, respectfully.  It’s like the people who asked Mother Teresa if she wanted to go to an Anti-_________ rally.  She never went, but when she said, “if you make a pro-peace rally, I’ll go.”

The more you press up against something you dislike or get back at someone, you’ll never feel accomplished and you’ll be bringing more of that.

Gary Vee mentioned that he does things to stick it back in other people’s faces.  Again, people have a way of doing it, but the antagonists, naysayers, and people that want to see you fail will continue dissecting every detail of you to find something else to complain about.  It will be a never-ending whirlwind of critcism you’re redirecting constantly over to yourself because you feel you have to do it to prove someone wrong.

I’m telling you now that they will continue to win.  Just remember, No One Ever Kicks A Dead Dog.

Podcast From Yesterday

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/darren-hardy-core-motivation-dont-use-it

 

Goals

The compound effect, just like the Law of Attraction, is always working – whether you believe it or not.  You can use it for you, or against you.  Most successful people in the world have quiet time for meditation, other people say that meditation isn’t for them.  It’s all based on preference. However, if you can get to a deeper level of your core, you will find the treasure.  I have a particular friend who works at a bank who says she doesn’t know what she loves.  Well, try new things! “Well, my mother said I can’t.”

Now’s not the time to be rescue 911.  If she doesn’t start now, she’ll look back to now at the age of 70 saying, “I wish I had…..”

Don’t be that person.

Ask yourself: “what goals, dreams and destinations do I desire?”

Honestly, ask yourself that question.  If you’re not making progress in life, and shooting aimlessly, it’s because your goals aren’t clearly defined and you just simply don’t have a definite chief-aim in life.  How can you learn to effectively to set and achieve goals?

Was Australia on my bucket list back in 2009? No.  However, in 2005, it gave me a glimpse of what was to come when I did a convention with a friend involving lots of managers from Australia at the Mandalay Bay Resort & Casino. That wasn’t a clearly defined goal, but rather an insight.

I always wanted to travel to Japan, Singapore, Bali and Maldives…when I put these onto my dreamboard, it happened.  It may not work for you, but it worked for me.

You only see, experience, and get what you look for. If you don’t know what to look for, you certainly won’t get it. By our very nature, we are goal-seeking creatures. Our brain is always trying to align our outer world with what we’re seeing and expecting in our inner world. So, when you instruct your brain to look for the things you want, you will begin to see them. In fact, the object of your desire has probably always existed around you, but your mind and eyes weren’t open to “seeing” it.
In reality, this is how the Law of Attraction really works. It is not the mysterious, esoteric voodoo it sometimes sounds like. It’s far simpler and more practical than that. – Darren Hardy

We are bombarded with visual, audio and physical things everyday.  Have you ever been thinking about that person and later get a phone call from them? How about that car you want? You start seeing the car a heck of a lot more, right? Is it realistic? Perhaps.  Maybe the cars were there all along and you just weren’t paying attention to it.

When you define your goals, you give your brain something new to look into and focus on. This is why our subconscious mind and feeding your mind with what you want one hour before you retire at night is imperative.  If you watch bad news, what shows up in your dreams? If you do work on that project, shop for that house, look for flights to Kazakhstan, and look at YouTube videos of travel in Morocco….your subconscious mind will work on it overnight.

Podcast

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/darren-hardy-part-ii-goal-setting

 

The Dickens Process – What Are Your Beliefs Costing You?

A lot, says I! Honest, when I first moved here, I met wonderful people.  An array of wonderful people, then when one incident (in terms of not being let into a bar because I was black, and hearing rude remarks, and seeing how my Irish and American colleagues were treated far better at work and society than me) led to many others….I decided to believe that all Thai people were openly racist towards people of color.

I want you to ask yourself these questions…
What has each belief cost you in the past, and what has it cost people you’ve loved in the past? What have you lost because of this belief? See it, hear it, feel it.

What is each costing you and people you care about in the present? See it, hear it, feel it.

What will each cost you and people you care about 1, 3, 5, and 10 years from now? See it, hear it, feel it.”

Here’s an example from an audio text from a persistent smoker….

“If they are coughing like crazy right now [from lung cancer], how do they keep smoking? They say to themselves, ‘Well, I smoked for years and it was never a problem.’ Or they say, ‘It will get better in the future. After all, George Burns lived until 102 smoking cigars.’ They find the exception to the rule because no one knows what the future is. We can make it up, we can convince ourselves it’s going to be okay. Or we can remember a past time in which it was okay. That’s how people get out of it.”

We continue to do the same things that we know are killing us, from past thoughts and actions, incidents, to physical things such as smoking.  We always find a way to convince ourselves that it’s going to “be all right,” don’t we?

It’s kind of like when we feel pain in one time zone—meaning past, present, or future—we just switch to another time zone rather than change, because change brings so much uncertainty and so much instability and so much fear to people.

There was a time that Tony Robbins held a seminar called Unleash The Power and did an emotional flood exercise which I practically do every morning in terms of thinking of some of the best times I felt loved, in joy, and in tune as a child.  With Oprah Winfrey in attendance, among so many others, you can see tears streaming down the faces of the attendees because we literally forget about all the great that has happened in our lives. Video: (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=smhzRqHkpZs)

“Perhaps it’s time for you to take a temporary break from pursuing goals to find the knots in the garden hose that, once removed, will make everything else better and easier? It’s incredible what can happen when you stop driving with the emergency brake on.”

Excerpt From: Timothy Ferriss & Arnold Schwarzenegger. “Tools of Titans.”