Coaching Session #001: Figuring Out Where Your Depression is Coming From

It was a coaching session like no other; in fact it was with a significant language barrier in between the both of us.

I first received a message from one of the girls that works at a place I’m part-timing at. She said she wanted to talk to me about something serious, so I immediately thought  something went bad — AGAIN — at work in regards to a student.

However, that wasn’t the case.  Previously i had coached one of my colleagues to snap out of her depression, and it worked.  So, the second staff member approached me and it was time to be the coach.

I made her do the “Wheel of Life” podcast and she became aware of what was going on in her life.  On a scale 1-10, and rating 8 categories, her highest mark was seven, which didn’t make any sense.  So her outer feelings and what is going on in her life is very apparent.  Here’s what she had.

Health – 5 – low blood pressure, dizzy, tired quickly

Wealth – 3 – no car, home, business, can’t take care of mother,

Career – 1 – absent-minded, indecision

Personal Development – 0 – cannot create happiness

Physical Environment – 3 – high competition, selfishness

Fun & Hobbies – 0 – no time or money

Family & Friends 7 – friends are there but not all

Physical Environment – 4

Romantic Relationships – 4 – lots of negative feelings towards love (6 entries)

So, here is what she wrote down (via google translate), and as you scan see, it focuses primarily on what she doesn’t have.  There’s conditioning happening here, which is not unusual, but she’s holding onto a lot of past things that aren’t suitable anymore.

Health revolves around her personal development.  Tired quickly, gets dizzy, etc….there could be a massive deficiency on so many levels in terms of vitamins, nutrients, minerals — but remember — it’s not what you see on the surface.  It’s much deeper than that.

Wealth is a fixed mindset.  She focuses on things she doesn’t have that I don’t have.  I don’t have a car or own a home, either.  It all depends on preferences, and because she believes success relates to materialistic things, she thinks she’s a failure for not having these things.

Physical Environment, in a place where competition is very high and ignorance amongst her colleagues, of course she’s going to hate it.  Little money? Of course! But why do you continue doing something that gives you no ROI? Is she happy doing the job? No way.

What to do?

What are her beliefs? What negative beliefs does she have on the subjects above? She needs to write them down and then write down something outrageously opposite from her belief.  This is when it begins to change.  You have to get rid of all the “have nots and don’t haves” and turn them into positive, reassuring statements because the subconscious doesn’t know what’s right from wrong.  It just takes in everything you feel, and in her case, she feels like complete s***.

Put one good food into her diet a day. There are plenty of mood-boosting foods out there in the world.

Career is a toss-up.  I can’t ask her what she does, but she definitely needs to do the “how to find your life purpose” questionnaire to get somewhat guidance.

Hate your job? Time to change it.  Hate something else? Drop it.  I’m a super advocate for taking out negativity.  My workplace has become an unbearable environment to be in over the last couple of weeks because of petty stuff.  What have I done? Start looking for new work.  That’s the basis.  Is it long-term where you’re working? Ok, you need to pay the bills….keep doing that, but never take ignorant bosses berating you over your sanity.  If that happens, goodbye.  Trust me, you will find something when you stop a herd of negativity from coming into your life.

Listen to “Coaching Session 001: Figuring Out Where Your Depression is Coming From” on Spreaker.

 

 

Tony Robbins: Unshakeable – Financial Freedom Facts: 1 & 2 + Story of Refugee

We’re back at it with finance!

Freedom Fact 1

“Have you ever listened to the pundits on CNBC or MSNBC talking about the stock market? Isn’t it amazing how dramatic they can make it sound? They love talking about volatility and turmoil because fear draws you into their programming.”

Excerpt From: Tony Robbins. “Unshakeable.” iBooks.

OH! The nail on the head! Of course! We call these people “fear mongers.”  All news anchors and outlets are the bottom of the barrel.  They’re the bain of all human existence.  This could be the Trump-North Korean war, or the fear of global warming, rising sea levels, and volcanic eruptions.  It draws silly ass people into their programs who end up pumping out that negativity to the rest of the world.

Yes, this is a bit off track, but it is the truth.

How about that foolish ass anchor (forgot his name) who kept saying, “Tesla is a cold stock!”  He was so anti-tesla, as so many other people were, but they all ended up eating their words.

How about Warren Buffet and the other supposed “billionaires” who berate bitcoin and other crypto because they don’t know what technology is?

The upcoming stock market crashes and what’s “happening” in the world is to draw your attention.  That’s all!

“Instead of getting distracted by all this noise, it helps to focus on a few key facts that truly matter. For example, on average, there’s been a market correction every year since 1900. When I first heard this, I was floored. Just think about it: if you’re 50 years old today and have a life expectancy of 85, you can expect to live through another 35 corrections. To put it another way, you’ll experience the same number of corrections as birthdays!
Why does this matter? Because it shows you that corrections are just a routine part of the game. Instead of living in fear of them, you and I have to accept them as regular occurrences—like spring, summer, fall, and winter. And you know what else? Historically, the average correction has lasted only 54 days—less than two months! In other words, most corrections are over almost before you know it. Not that scary, right?”

“Still, when you’re in the midst of a correction, you might find yourself becoming emotional and wanting to sell because you’re anxious to avert the possibility of more pain. You’re certainly not alone. These widespread emotions create a crisis mentality. But it’s important to note that, in the average correction over the last 100 years, the market has fallen only 13.5%. From 1980 through the end of 2015, the average drop was 14.2%.
It can feel pretty uncomfortable when your assets are taking that kind of a hit—and the uncertainty leads many people to make big mistakes. But here’s what you have to remember: if you hold tight, it’s highly likely that the storm will soon pass.”

 

Freedom Fact 2: Less Than 20% of All Corrections Turn Into a Bear Market

 

“When the market starts tumbling—especially when it’s down more than 10%—many people hit their pain threshold and start to sell because they’re scared that this drop could turn into a death spiral. Aren’t they just being sensible and prudent? Actually, not so much. It turns out that fewer than one in five corrections escalate to the point where they become a bear market. To put it another way, 80% of corrections don’t turn into bear markets.
If you panic and move into cash during a correction, you may well be doing so right before the market rebounds. Once you understand that the vast majority of corrections aren’t that bad, it’s easier to keep calm and resist the temptation to hit the eject button at the first sign of turbulence.”

Story of Refugee

I was sitting comfortably on the BTS skytrain in the heart of Bangkok, waiting for my stop to come so I can go about my day.  I looked up and I saw a lady walk past me with a smile on her face.  Opposite of me was an entire row of empty seats, but she decided to sit next to me.  I said, “oh boy.  Here we go! Arsenio, you attracted another one!”  She then started speaking to me, and of course, she asked me for food and money.

Her story was that she was laid off as a teacher while working as a refugee and her children are in school.  Sounds like a fabricated story, right? If you’re an undocumented refugee, there’s no way you can get into the country.  On top of that, your “children” are also undocumented.  So, how are they at school? Why are you on public transportation asking for money? One being because that’s dangerous for you — given the fact that immigration can ultimately find you and throw you in immigration jail for the rest of your life (and that’s all seriousness because that’s what they do in Thailand).

You mean to tell me your system is so broken that you have been reduced to begging for money on trains? In all realness, it looks like she was eating quite well.  Refugees are often emaciated. She seemed perfectly fine….so which brings to me that not only she’s a scammer, but she’s lost her will to survive and be the lioness for her children.