Wheel of Life | Year In Review | Romantic Relationships | 2

As I’ve told you guys before, I’m going to go over every individual category in the Wheel of Life over the course of this month until Christmas. Today, I’m beginning with Romantic Relationships because it’s the easiest category. 

I must say that I made a number of mistakes at the beginning of the year. To kick off the New Year, there was already an argument and someone saying “I need space.” Later on that week, and when the pollution had gotten increasingly worse, we were supposed to meet up a shopping plaza, but because she doesn’t have good awareness, it took more than a half-hour to meet, ending in an argument, me paying for my bill, and storming off. She sent me a message later on that night saying, “I don’t think it’s going to work,” and that was the end. 

It was laughable, but her wish was granted until I let her back in my second time around. Huge mistake. Sure, at the beginning (and before my trip to Malaysia), we had dinner, said our goodbyes and I told her that I would go to Vietnam to visit her. Within a week she said, “I don’t want a low-quality relationship,” ending it for the second time. 

It was frustrating, but I said “good, goodbye.” She came back around three months later and I laughed hysterically. I said, “what do you want?” She thought she could literally just “sorry” her way back in for the third time? My dumbass, let her. Lol. This time I visited Vietnam and got a great insight into what could potentially come for my career. In about a month after that, she was gone again. The best part was I turned to a 1995 film by the name of “Money Train” and used a slogan right out of the money to frankly tell her to “fuck off.” Omg, great times. 

What did I learn? The first time is enough. The second time you’re dumb. The third time you’re desperate. You lose. 

Did I get better? I think I did….through personal development, but because relationships are so topsy-turvy, there’s not much else I can do but grow as an individual. 

How was your year?

Wheel of Life: July 2019 Edition – TAKE OFF!

Damn, about DAMN time! I mean, having about 300$ to my name (and I’m not saying that embarrassingly, either) was rough. Looking back and saying to myself, “I had x amount in my account and had to bitch at a part-time employer to pay me on-time). This was such a monster, and to be able to weather a storm like that, I’m super grateful.

It was the last little bit of indirect hell that I imposed on myself. I can sit here and complain to one of my branches for not giving me any work, or I can just fess up and say “I allowed this to happen.”

I asked myself, “how can I make more money?”

With a great question comes a series of answers. I ended up making one of my highest salaries in two years (in a single month) and now I’m out of the rut and focusing on what’s important; not to mention that I finally got my visa. No more quick fly-outs and being harassed my immigration officers. I’m now a FREE MAN and can begin traveling to countries I’ve never been to!

All in all, this was a series of dump-offs. This was a very tough month for me both financially and in terms of my brand. Being at the pinnacle and the face of a company and now having been betrayed, deceived, lied to and other things? How about Arsenio just works for himself?

Nonetheless, here’s my wheel of life. Here’s the official take-off. Deadweight has been released. Relationships, which should’ve been dead a long time ago, are officially dead. I dropped out of chat groups and I’ve unfriended people — on top of putting people into my ignore list, including a friend-turned-engaged woman.

Distractions. Too many. People lingering around. People talking to me and having my ear who shouldn’t. I needed to take everyone out, including my content writer. And now, on an entire new slate, I’m more focused and disciplined than ever before.

Wheel of Life

Welcome to the wheel of life, which is a wonderful technique that you can use on a monthly basis to evaluate your life in all areas. This is a great opportunity for you guys to figure out if you have strengths, weaknesses, problems, and writing out solutions to why particular categories are so low.

My monthly scores….

Personal Development — 10

Physical Environment – 9

Romantic Relationships – X

Friends & Family (mine is close circle) – 2

Health – 10

Wealthy – 8

Fun & Hobbies – 4

Career – 10

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Wheel of Life: May 2019 Edition – Weathering the STORM

Perhaps the storm of the century? After being stopped, for whatever reason it may have been (of course — it’s Thailand) at immigration, it threw my life into a whirlwind. I was scrambling to set up what should’ve been done last year. If it had fallen through, my time in Thailand would’ve been up. With determination and the willingness to get things done, I’m on the verge of finally solidifying myself on a visa needed to stay in the country and now I’m onto the next juncture in my life.

Nonetheless, this was the most emotionally exhausting few weeks since living here in Thailand (and certainly since 2014-2015). Take some steps back, reassess the situation, and execute if possible.

For those of you tuning in for the first time, the wheel of life cycle is a way of assessing my life over the last month in eight categories: personal development, physical environment, health, wealth, career, fun and hobbies, family and friends, and romantic relationships.

Wealth – 3

I’m going to cover just the ones that might be of importance for a lot of you. Some of you might be going through the same problems as me, yet you don’t know the solutions for getting over it. So, thi sone is especially for you all.

When everything began falling apart about a week ago, I had to take a step back and ask myself, “how can I make more money?” Robert Kiyosaki says if you say a statement, there’s nothing else you can do. It’s like quicksand that turn into cement.

Following that was a series of different occurrences. A lady, who I hadn’t spoken to in almost a year, called me out-of-the-blue. A few days later, I met with her an she offered me permanent, part-time work that enables me to get a decent, fall-back salary every month in case I don’t get work from my main job.

Ahhh, yes, the main job! On the verge of getting a visa and every salary this year has been head-scratching, to abhorrent. I cannot wait around and believe that people are going to fill my pockets. I had to go out and take, and that’s exactly what I did.

Family & Friends – 3

So, friends are gone. Yes, I met a friend while out there in Singapore, but after I came back, it’s been downhill. I must say that it’s quite funny when people try getting in touch with me again after x amount of weeks. A girl, who I had blocked because she was basically idolizing white men, sent me a message to my Facebook group. My content writer showed me the photo and I laughed. “Why come back now?” Unless it’s pure desperation, I won’t even think about messaging her back because there’s nothing to that friendship. It’s dead, history, archived.

Then, there was the weird situation where I met a samaritan from America at the base of my condo. After a few days, there was a message sent by him that was very…..peculiar. It was odd beyond belief. I didn’t quite understand it….to the point that I blocked him. That was so odd to the point that I was like, “whoa, how am I supposed to respond to a weird rant like that?”

Guys, dump those losers. Honestly, if they’re not feeding your roots or watering your plant, they’re looking for takeaway. When they get it, they’re going to leave anyway, so you might as well drop them from the beginning.

All in All

Let’s just say hypothetically speaking that everything goes the way it should. Now, living here in Thailand, nothing is perfect….but if all goes well today, and then all goes well next Thursday; 99% of my nervousness, anxiousness, and degree of worry will be expunged and done away with. When this happens, I’ll be able to refocus and reaffirm what’s really important in life.

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Wealth: Goals for 2019!

Yes, I’ve past over maybe a half-dozen of other blogs in relations to goals for 2019, but here I am bringing you my wealth goals for 2019!

Emergency Fund

I will be jump-starting a course on the Grow2Gether Academy this upcoming January 5th, and this is going to be part of it.

I believe I haven’t been practicing what I’ve been preaching. I need to stash away 1-2k USD in case things go wrong. Living in a country that could be up-in-arms and is approaching an election (which will ignite full-steam hatred amongst the population), having a stipend that will support me at any time and money to rollover is unbelievably important.

This is why creating an online stream of income is so important.

No More Simple Money

I’m done wasting time. Let me give you an example of this. On Thursday I work from 9-11am and 4-6pm. In those four hours I clear a very good salary. Normally I would run all the way to the other side of town to teach, and run back to the other place…FOR NEXT TO NO MONEY!

It’s time to starting saying NO! No, I don’t want to teach on these days because it’s simple money and it won’t help me, nor is it even worth commuting and paying the taxi to come back because I’ll lose 15% of what I earn in 2 hours.

Instead, do what’s more important. Stop focusing on the small money and focus on the bigger picture. Short-term money, or long-term impact?

I decided to put a cap on what I make in a day (primary job) so I can focus on the bigger picture.

It’s time for MSI’s!

MSI’s are very important now. It’s time to make that passive income. Saving is always big, and I’ll start investing as soon as I have a good amount of money coming in through MSI’s.

Listen to “Wealth: Goals for 2019!” on Spreaker.

Wheel of Life: November 2018 Edition – Closing Out The Year STRONG!

What a year! I mean, I’m so excited to just dive right into the December version, but I’ll be doing a wide range of those coming up with other people in a “coaching style” consultation (TBD).  I’m super excited about going over another edition, a long standing tradition of evaluating my life on a month-to-month basis.  Here are the categories.

Since I don’t technically have friends, I’ve switched my category from the “friends” category to the “circle of friends” category.  

 

Personal Development – 10

Scribd, which is a site I’m not getting paid from, offers a 3 month free trial of listening, downloading and reading online books and magazines. Brilliant idea that I wish I had come up with in the past.  Ha! Nonetheless, this has enabled me to listen to three chapters of a book which features Napoleon Hill interviewing Andrew Carnegie.  Chapter 3, the chapter I’m on right now, has been life-changing! Guys, check it out and see if it helps you. No more listening to music (unless you’re working out or in the mood) and start listening to books that will enable you to take your life to the next level!

Physical Environment – 9

Because where I live has always been great, the workplace can go up and down.  However, after getting an additional project in the heart of the CBD, two of my week nights are pure glory.

Romantic Relationships – ??

I’m not going to jinx anything right now; therefore, I will not spill any beans.

Health – 9 

The Spartan Beast was a test of will. This was a race that scared the living hell out of me on mile mark 16km, and luckily I was able to finish the race.  The most difficult race, by far, since 2015 and I was able to overcome such a gauntlet.  I’m super proud.  I’ve stopped staring myself down in mirrors and now I’m focused for next February’s monster in Melbourne.

Wealth – 8 

It could be better. Still grateful and consistently consistent, but nothing fantabulous. However, I’m sitting myself up for the greatest 2019.

Career – 10

I’ve connected with just about everyone.  I have people from Jersey, Ireland, and Romania who are coaches and so many other things.  With all the webinars that are being created, Academy that’s being developed and getting ready to launch in early January, and a handful of other things just makes it perfect.  Super grateful for the amount of great characters that have come into my life and partnerships that are developing at a rate that will up-level me and help me achieve my highest of goals!

Fun & Hobbies – 8

This is probably the highest I’ve ever had it.  I’m starting to enjoy my life more, and it’s because I’m working some days in the CBD rather than on the outskirts and until 9pm.  If I can finish work at 9pm, which I normally do a couple days a week, that gives me time to meet people, especially if I’m just outside reliable transportation. However, if I’m working in the depths of hell, which I normally do three nights a week, that cancels out any opportunity of meeting people.  Well, after a wonderful Thanksgiving dinner and two friends coming in from Chiang Mai and Mongolia, December could be the first possible 10, starting off with a trip to Vientiane, Laos!

Circle of Friends – 8

Now, for many of you, this is the family and friends category.  However, for me, you already know this story.  I’m my own family and my best friend. There isn’t a soul that could save me if things fail. My circle of friends, on the other hand, have done some great things for me and have improved my mindset considerably.

Listen to “Wheel of Life: November 2018 Edition: Closing Out The Year STRONG!” on Spreaker.

 

Wheel of Life: October 2018 Edition – Closing Out The Year

Another month, another close.  Yes, it’s been a year with far more ups than downs, but the closing is coming to an end.

How will you leave your mark?

For those of you tuning in for the first time, this is a podcast that’s for people who are willing to identify what areas of life are their strengths and which ones they’ve been neglecting.  Here are the categories.

  • Personal development
  • Physical environment
  • Romantic relationships
  • Health
  • Wealth
  • Career
  • Fun & Hobbies
  • Family & Friends

Rate yourself from 1-10 in each category and be brutally honest about yourself.  Once you understand what areas are suffering, now you’re consciously aware and can make a change.  Here are not only my categories, but what I need to improve in.

Improvement Stages Launch

Normally I’ve talked about my main scores followed by explanation, but I want to see where I can improve.  It’s not about becoming a perfectionist, but improving.

Physical Environment – *3

So, in terms of my physical environment, I believe that it can increase significantly.  First and foremost, my separate projects outside my main place of work are great.  A turning point happened at my job where someone “bitched” at me over something that isn’t even worth repeating (ok, it was about writing on a back of a sheet of paper), but it made me realize “maybe this place doesn’t deserve a teacher like me?”  When she did this, I scratched my head and said, “I’m not going to get my visa until early next year…and that’s if I’m still here.”

That’s called a yellow flag, folks.  Never fully commit when you have nastiness happening.

I’m now cancelling a lot of my availability with the job — because I CAN.  I’m also focusing on my main projects, but that and a couple of blackouts at my condo has hampered the everlasting 10 you would see on a continuous basis.

Physical Environment – *2

I could’ve increased my personal development by a large margin if I just know how to end my day.

I’ve been scuffling and trying to figure out an evening routine that’s suitable for m Because I finish work so ridiculously late, it’s very hard for me to end my day effectively (no excuses.  It all deals with my phone.  If I’m able to listen to affirmations or listen to my “calm” application, which has some nice story-telling to put me in a good state of mind, I win.  However, I haven’t been able to do that.

So, there are several things that I will implement. Tune into my podcast down below for that!

Career – *1.5

Honestly, I’m on the right track.  The comments, the love, the support, the things I’m attracting…but my actions are still not showing that I’m hungry for my ebook and webinar launch.

Wealth – *5

This was the category that made me upset.  I should be making a solid figure per month at my day job, but I’m not — STILL.  So, what can I do to buck the trend? In the podcast!

Because I don’t want to make this long extra long, I decided put everything into my podcast down below to here how I’m able to cope with things that aren’t working.

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Wheel of Life: September 2018 Edition – Grateful!

Period! Need I say more? Man, just looking back on some things that have happened at the beginning of this year and last year.  You know, some time around December, I remember going to a fitness class in the heart of Bangkok and seeing two Australian Air Force personnel and meeting them.  They were so happy and content, and the first time I met them, I opened up about moving to Bangkok and sharing them my story in terms of dealing with all the shenanigans of my last job.

I recall sharing other stories with the likes of personal trainers and I was under such distressed, completely unaware of what was going to happen in the future.  After contacting Chilean teaching headhunters and other corporations, I decided to possibly venture out and get out of Thailand.  Going back and forth with a place that was barely giving me any work because the vindictive revenge that they had in mind, I needed to get the hell outa there.

I got some part-time jobs here and there.  Two women, who were nice at the beginning of the year, helped me with March-May because of teaching TOEFL iTP at their small testing center.  I accepted a contract that I thought was steep (initially but it ended up being complete bullshit) and worked way outside Bangkok with another guy that looks 89 years old.  I had another side gig at a place that I found quite enjoyable (teaching a doctor) in an area that was just beautiful (but takes 1.5 hours to get home).  You guys understand, now.  The beginning of this year was tough.  It was bleak.  I got two jobs through emails and then turned down because the students wanted a “white” teacher.  I began applying for jobs in Malaysia, Tunisia, France, Spain, etc.  Lots of different offers were coming in, but I kept at it and stayed strong here.  Guess what? It all paid off.

Nonetheless, I just want to review the hardships because that’s where the primary growth takes place.  I never learn from seemingly non-stop success.  So to see myself on what looks like the pillar of success, is the greatest thing that has ever happened.  I’m humble, but here’s my Wheel of Life.

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Fitness Entrepreneurs Pod #1: Conditioning + Spartan Training Tips

Boy! This was an exciting podcast.  Moustafo and Hakeem, two podcasters (in their own right) and fitness entrepreneurs who live in Malaysia, joined me this morning to talk about conditioning and Spartan training.  I’m amazed how much knowledge these young individuals have in the health spectrum of everything.  Because this will be a 2-3 weekly type of podcast, I do want you guys to send your questions in.  The next podcast will be on Crossfit, so anything crossfit related would be great!

Get in touch with Fitness entrepreneurs

– The art of conditioning and Spartan training.

Links:

Hakeem Khan

 

Moustafa Sano

 

Things we discussed:

  • Introduction given by the host and his guests.
  • The differences between cardio and conditioning.
  • How the guests condition their bodies?
  • The length of their training.
  • Building of death leaps and squad.
  • Understand what your goals for training are.
  • Talking about trying marathon.
  • Moustafo shared his Rugby story.
  • Sharing about unfortunate accidents and injuries.
  • What are the basics of conditioning training?
  • Sharing about running and marathon.
  • Final thoughts by the guests.

 

Thank you for listening!

 

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Positive Mental Attitude: Season 2 – Episode 16 -You Can Enjoy Good Health & Live Longer

“How PMA aids you. PMA will help you develop mental and physical health and a longer life. And NMA will just as surely undermine mental and physical health and shorten your life. It all depends upon which side of the talisman you turn up. Positive Mental Attitude properly employed has saved the lives of many persons because someone close to them had a strong Positive Mental Attitude. The following incident proves the point.”

This is the bottomline.  If you complain and emanate feelings of negativity, you will die early.  That’s the basis of everything.

Think about it.  Back in 2015, I was constantly berating myself with the “loser sob” stories that created my reality “at the time.”  I lived in a neighborhood where I got dirty looks….that’s my fault (100% accountability).  I was around the biggest losers in my life (teachers at my old job) and the things they said…were uninspiring, malicious and repugnant….I became the chatter.  All of these things, including death threats from Thai Airways’ workers, were coming in by herds.  I needed to breakaway from the ignorance.  I needed to finally cut off the dead weight of losers and free myself to learn and expand on the true meaning of life.

Best Quote Ever

“The price of ignorance is sin, sickness, and death! What do you know about Hygiene ? Hygiene is defined as “a system of principles or rules designed for the promotion of health.” Social Hygiene often refers specifically to venereal contagion. Ignorance of physical, mental, and social hygiene can lead to sin, sickness, and death.”

Excerpt From: Napoleon Hill. “Success Through A Positive Mental Attitude.” iBooks. https://itunes.apple.com/us/book/success-through-a-positive-mental-attitude/id381618319?mt=11

HMMMM! Just think about it.  Those people in those “whiney bitch party” groups at work, what ends up happening?

There’s a story.  Her name was Nancy.  Nancy was a worker at the Dental Faculty Practice at the College of Southern Nevada.  She was a very nasty human being.  She mistreated not only the patients, but all of the workers.  She was rude, snappy, and just about everything else in the book.

Not sure how long she was like this for, but it had to be for years.  A year after I left to come to Thailand, Nancy was killed in a car accident.  Four people in the car, and the other three were unscathed.  Nancy was the only one that perished.

Am I saying this is related to her sinning constantly by being unkind to everyone? Could be.  No one will ever know, but I don’t want to be that unfortunate mother/father, brother/sister that gets a phone call saying, “sorry, your _________ has passed away,” regretting everything she ever was.

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Tony Robbins: More Chatter on Index Funds & Mutual Funds

“But how do you pick the right funds? There are certainly enough to choose from. As we mentioned earlier, there are about 9,500 mutual funds in America—more than double the number of publicly traded US companies! So it’s safe to say the mutual fund market is a tad saturated. Why do so many companies want to be in this business? Yup, you got it: because it’s fabulously lucrative!
The trouble is, it tends to be much more lucrative for Wall Street than for actual customers like you and me. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not suggesting that the industry is consciously out to screw us. I’m not suggesting that this is a business full of crooks or charlatans! On the contrary, the majority of financial professionals are intelligent, hardworking, and thoughtful. But Wall Street has evolved into an ecosystem that exists first and foremost to make money for itself. It’s not an evil industry made up of evil individuals. It’s made up of corporations whose purpose is to maximize profits for their shareholders. That’s their job.”

Excerpt From: Tony Robbins. “Unshakeable.” iBooks. https://itunes.apple.com/us/book/unshakeable/id1146849403?mt=11

Scary, isn’t it? Was asked a question recently about “how can we take a leap of faith when we live in such an uncertain world?” It’s an excellent question.  If you look at the Crypto markets right now, we’re heading for a some really nasty times — maybe? Some of the investors are still amazingly optimistic, but I’m still a bit terrified about it.

That’s when we get into Index Funds…and the reassurance in this chapter glistened my eyes.

Index funds take a “passive” approach that eliminates almost all trading activity. Instead of trading in and out of the market, they simply buy and hold every stock in an index such as the S&P 500. This includes companies like Apple, Alphabet, Microsoft, ExxonMobil, and Johnson & Johnson—currently the five biggest stocks in the S&P 500. Index funds are almost entirely on autopilot: they make very few trades, so their transaction costs and tax bills are incredibly low. They also save a fortune on other expenses. For one thing, they don’t have to pay enormous salaries to all those active fund managers and their teams of analysts with Ivy League degrees!” – Tony Robbins

“When you own an index fund, you’re also protected against all the downright dumb, mildly misguided, or merely unlucky decisions that active fund managers are liable to make. For example, an active manager is likely to keep a portion of the fund’s assets in cash, ready to invest if an enticing opportunity arises—or ready to meet redemption requests if lots of investors decide to sell their shares in the fund. Keeping some cash on hand isn’t a bad idea, and it’s handy when the market falls. But cash doesn’t earn a return, so it will underperform stocks over time, assuming that the market continues its general upward trajectory. Ultimately the resulting “cash drag” tends to have a negative impact on the returns of actively managed funds.
What about index funds? Instead of sitting on cash, they remain almost fully invested at all times.”