Wheel of Life: March 2020 Edition – Quarantine

We’re back with another Wheel of Life edition! Big special shout out to the people who have read this for years already, and this is a deep special because this was the life-changing moment I needed.

Who would’ve ever thought that quarantine would be great. Losing my job for about 6 weeks ended up being the pusher for me to transform my subconscious mind. But before I get into that, in brief, here are the categories to rate yourself in:

  • Personal development
  • Physical environment
  • Health
  • Wealth
  • Career
  • Family & friends
  • Fun & hobbies
  • Romantic Relationships

In this blog, I should finally discuss the transformation and leave the podcast down below for you to listen to the other categories. Be sure to share your scores!

Personal Development

Mira Butler had come forth in an idea and we acted on it. She wanted to create a UDEMY course, but even before that, we were having long, hilarious chats about a variety of things until we finally said “let’s do this.” I went through her personal transformation course, and everything that had hindered me in the past finally dispersed. The level of consciousness, the gratitude, and the unbelievable opportunities that are coming into my life is because I no longer have a hindrance. Are you ready for this podcast? Let’s do it!

Wheel of Life | Year In Review | Romantic Relationships | 2

As I’ve told you guys before, I’m going to go over every individual category in the Wheel of Life over the course of this month until Christmas. Today, I’m beginning with Romantic Relationships because it’s the easiest category. 

I must say that I made a number of mistakes at the beginning of the year. To kick off the New Year, there was already an argument and someone saying “I need space.” Later on that week, and when the pollution had gotten increasingly worse, we were supposed to meet up a shopping plaza, but because she doesn’t have good awareness, it took more than a half-hour to meet, ending in an argument, me paying for my bill, and storming off. She sent me a message later on that night saying, “I don’t think it’s going to work,” and that was the end. 

It was laughable, but her wish was granted until I let her back in my second time around. Huge mistake. Sure, at the beginning (and before my trip to Malaysia), we had dinner, said our goodbyes and I told her that I would go to Vietnam to visit her. Within a week she said, “I don’t want a low-quality relationship,” ending it for the second time. 

It was frustrating, but I said “good, goodbye.” She came back around three months later and I laughed hysterically. I said, “what do you want?” She thought she could literally just “sorry” her way back in for the third time? My dumbass, let her. Lol. This time I visited Vietnam and got a great insight into what could potentially come for my career. In about a month after that, she was gone again. The best part was I turned to a 1995 film by the name of “Money Train” and used a slogan right out of the money to frankly tell her to “fuck off.” Omg, great times. 

What did I learn? The first time is enough. The second time you’re dumb. The third time you’re desperate. You lose. 

Did I get better? I think I did….through personal development, but because relationships are so topsy-turvy, there’s not much else I can do but grow as an individual. 

How was your year?

Family & Friends: Goals for 2019!

Some things can’t be changed.  I completely understand.  Last year I saw three significant departures, and going back to my blog, I’m now looking back on my previous self — terrified.

I literally have my best friend in New York and a good friend in Australia.  The others come and go as they will…more labeled as acquaintances.  2017 was a rough year.  There were days of emotional turmoil and even a three-day-period when I fell under a trance of melancholy.  Not good.  I pushed for dead-end relationships and that’s what needs to be cleaned up going into the latter stages of the year.  Sure, I met two friends (before one vanished) and I still have one that’s up and running.  In terms of meeting people around Bangkok, I think it will happen in due time, but I’m preparing for that massive change now.
Family
Yikes! What a disaster of a category this is.  Haha! A brother who has always hated me (thank you), two sisters who don’t speak to me (typical), a mother who has never tried calling me in the last five years of living here in Thailand (why so serious?), and an entire family that’s completely jealous of what I’m doing with my life.  However, they can do the same thing.

January 6th, 2018

As you can see in the link, WOW! That’s some pretty scary language coming from a now mentor/coach.  Just amazing how I was able to turn it around entirely.

What did I do? Well, from my friend Waii (who left in May, came back and left again for a long time), to another girl named Zern (was a relationship then dropped it), and lastly — my friend Alissa (who completely disappeared to the middle of this year).  Looking at what had happened before, I absolutely didn’t want to make the same mistake again this year. So, did I try adding in any friends? NOPE! Only close circle people.

In April, I lost a friend named Nazira, who lives in Bishkek.  I lost another one from Indonesia and one late last year.  I took out everything, and in my mind, I pretty much accepted that friends will absolutely come and go.  I’m my biggest and bestest friend, and that’s the only person I can rely on.

However, who I have around me NOW is utterly amazing.  Great people from head-to-toe.  Life coaches, relationship coaches, mentors, graphic designers, new content writer……this year I did repeat the bullshit I had done in the past (which is just letting people into my close circle).  People who are outside my circle will stay outside my circle.  The great people who are in my circle will never depart because they’ve become my oxygen and they’re not selfish.  The people who I had let inside my circle (closed circle) last year were incredibly selfish.  They didn’t care about the relationship….only their person needs.

One more example would be a friend from Japan.  Yeah, she came into my life as a language exchange buddy who I developed a REMARKABLE companionship with.  After that, she had become distance, which is what women normally do, and then that last message came: “Arsenio, I can’t message you anymore. I’m going to America tomorrow to meet my boyfriend.

“You can’t talk to me anymore but you still have a husband and you’re going to meet a boyfriend in another country?

Arsenio

Yeah, ridiculous. She left March this year, and this happens a lot with my Japanese friends (not holding an entire country accountable for some individual actions, but it’s the last time I’ll ever let someone in my closed circle).

Over to you.

  1. Who do you have in your circle who’s taking, rather than giving?
  2. What new companions and professionals can you add to your closed circle and drop into the outer circle?
  3. Are you able to recognize those who will invest in you?
  4. Is your family too toxic to overcome that you want to distance yourself? If so, how can you start trimming the time that you’re with them?
  5. Are you investing too much into your family that’s not being reinvested in you?
  6. Make a list of the people who are giving and a list of people who are taking.

Listen to “Family & Friends: Goals for 2019!” on Spreaker.

Coaching Session #001: Figuring Out Where Your Depression is Coming From

It was a coaching session like no other; in fact it was with a significant language barrier in between the both of us.

I first received a message from one of the girls that works at a place I’m part-timing at. She said she wanted to talk to me about something serious, so I immediately thought  something went bad — AGAIN — at work in regards to a student.

However, that wasn’t the case.  Previously i had coached one of my colleagues to snap out of her depression, and it worked.  So, the second staff member approached me and it was time to be the coach.

I made her do the “Wheel of Life” podcast and she became aware of what was going on in her life.  On a scale 1-10, and rating 8 categories, her highest mark was seven, which didn’t make any sense.  So her outer feelings and what is going on in her life is very apparent.  Here’s what she had.

Health – 5 – low blood pressure, dizzy, tired quickly

Wealth – 3 – no car, home, business, can’t take care of mother,

Career – 1 – absent-minded, indecision

Personal Development – 0 – cannot create happiness

Physical Environment – 3 – high competition, selfishness

Fun & Hobbies – 0 – no time or money

Family & Friends 7 – friends are there but not all

Physical Environment – 4

Romantic Relationships – 4 – lots of negative feelings towards love (6 entries)

So, here is what she wrote down (via google translate), and as you scan see, it focuses primarily on what she doesn’t have.  There’s conditioning happening here, which is not unusual, but she’s holding onto a lot of past things that aren’t suitable anymore.

Health revolves around her personal development.  Tired quickly, gets dizzy, etc….there could be a massive deficiency on so many levels in terms of vitamins, nutrients, minerals — but remember — it’s not what you see on the surface.  It’s much deeper than that.

Wealth is a fixed mindset.  She focuses on things she doesn’t have that I don’t have.  I don’t have a car or own a home, either.  It all depends on preferences, and because she believes success relates to materialistic things, she thinks she’s a failure for not having these things.

Physical Environment, in a place where competition is very high and ignorance amongst her colleagues, of course she’s going to hate it.  Little money? Of course! But why do you continue doing something that gives you no ROI? Is she happy doing the job? No way.

What to do?

What are her beliefs? What negative beliefs does she have on the subjects above? She needs to write them down and then write down something outrageously opposite from her belief.  This is when it begins to change.  You have to get rid of all the “have nots and don’t haves” and turn them into positive, reassuring statements because the subconscious doesn’t know what’s right from wrong.  It just takes in everything you feel, and in her case, she feels like complete s***.

Put one good food into her diet a day. There are plenty of mood-boosting foods out there in the world.

Career is a toss-up.  I can’t ask her what she does, but she definitely needs to do the “how to find your life purpose” questionnaire to get somewhat guidance.

Hate your job? Time to change it.  Hate something else? Drop it.  I’m a super advocate for taking out negativity.  My workplace has become an unbearable environment to be in over the last couple of weeks because of petty stuff.  What have I done? Start looking for new work.  That’s the basis.  Is it long-term where you’re working? Ok, you need to pay the bills….keep doing that, but never take ignorant bosses berating you over your sanity.  If that happens, goodbye.  Trust me, you will find something when you stop a herd of negativity from coming into your life.

Listen to “Coaching Session 001: Figuring Out Where Your Depression is Coming From” on Spreaker.

 

 

Wheel of Life: It’s A Little Foggy + Heart Talk Achieved!

Oh, yes! Welcome back to another edition of the wheel of life, which is coming about 5 days earlier from when I normally debut it.  I’m grateful as hell, regardless of all the things I’ve been through, but I do believe I’ve been looking in the wrong places.

Over the course of this month, it’s been a bit turbulent.  Job offers but no jobs; a woman applying for jobs for me – only to tell me “they chose another teacher;” British language center (not my cup of tea) which said they would use me, but they never did.

These are all just forms in the road and it revolves a little bit around career.  It’s been a bit wild in general, but it’s time to go over the month in it’s entirety!

Family & Friends – 4

Yeah, definitely a bit low from the last time.  Remember the story about the Indian girl who’s a fitness trainer? Yeah, too much baggage, lies, voids and no trust.  Dumped like a bad habit.  I’ve also realized that one of my best friends is an afterthought now.  This category took a ferocious hit this month.

What Now?

Ok, the loose and unwanted baggage has been taking out.  So what’s the next step? Nurture those life-time relationships I already have and don’t take the newcomers too seriously.

Family will always be family.  Not much around but hear some motivating words from my family from time-to-time.

Health – 7

In terms of my healthy living, it’s extraordinary.  I get enough sleep and I haven’t had any allergies whatsoever.  My mileage on my runs continues to go up and I don’t feel extremely tired after my runs, either.

However, I lost my shape 🙁 I’m very diligent now with my funds until something is consistent, so I haven’t been joining my workout class twice-a-week like I normally did last year.

Fun & Hobbies – 6

This is a bit unchanged because nothing miraculous happened over this month.

Romantic Relationships – Hell No

That’s a big hell no, too.

Career – 10

*CLEARED CONSCIOUS*

YouTube hit the biggest peak just a few days ago with people in almost every country listening to me.  It’s unbelievably fascinating and sooooo exciting! People are commenting, suggesting, recommending and speaking about me – on top of sharing my videos.  So grateful!

Podcast hit some massive spikes over the past week.  I’ve gotten some great downloads from countries such as Mauritius, and lots of isolated towns around America are figuring out about me.  I mean it’s finally beginning to promote itself!

Blog/website is very enticing to say the least.  I get sparks from Greece, Mexico, Tanzania and a few other countries, looking for my education blogs and whatnot.

The ultimate project I got could possibly land me residual income for the next 10 years, so now I’m hustling big time in terms of making practice tests and getting ready for the massive herd of people who are about to come in by the thousands – literally.

My graphic designer, who I probably will cut ties with soon, did my Facebook cover art and a few other things.  However, having things put off and attitude is started to make me second guess everything.  I think I will upgrade my wordpress site and install plugins.  MAYBE!

This is probably the immediate things that are happening.  Of course there are probably another half-dozen things that are taking place at the moment.  I’m just TOO EXCITED!

I think what’s happening and what just happened with my primary job, as of today, was a blessing in disguise and made me rethink a couple of things, thanks to someone who cares about me.

Personal Development – 9

Found ET (Eric Thomas) YouTube channel, along with listening to Be Inspired (another YouTube channel) has really changed me a lot over the past several days.  I’m literally on fire.  I’ve been doing a lot of reading and converting so much of it to blogs and podcast.

Physical Environment – 8

Now, I’m dumping the trash out right now.  Once that’s over, my environment should be at a consistent 10 every month.  New jobs all around Bangkok, wonderful women that I work with, big projects and living in a gorgeous condo says it all.

Wealth – 7.5

Worst month in terms of salary in January at the burning trash dump (lol – I love creating nicknames for this place).  However, I got my projects on board, teaching trainer project, and so many others are coming in.  This month I’ll be in a very good surplus, but March, April, and May will determine the outcome of whether I stay or go to possibly Spain or France.

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Wheel of Life – January 2018: We’re Back!

For those wonderful beings tuning in for the first time, this is an excellent exercise that I use on a monthly basis to figure out where I’m standing in different categories of my life; moreover, if I’m creating balance, or neglecting particular categories.  This helps me out tremendously.  Here are my scores for the month.

Personal Development: 9.5

I’m doing work in this realm, and now after having an amazing 3.5 hour conversation with a remarkable human being, I’m so excited of what is taking place inside of me.

Physical Environment: 9.5

This was the best move I could’ve ever done.  Being away from slum mindsets was the stepping-stone to true fulfillment.

Career: 9.5

This was a big whirlwind/spin because I applied for jobs in Chile, and thought I was going to get a job here in Thailand.  How dumb of me.  LOL!  The fact and matter is that I was too impatient.  More in the podcast.

Fun & Hobbies: 9

I’m enjoying myself now.  Every Tuesday and Thursday – sometimes I go running, then I schedule podcast interviews for that time, and there’s just so much happening.  I’m enjoying my life now since living in Bangkok.

Romantic Relationships: ?

Honestly, I just don’t know at this point, and I won’t even be getting into it and jinx myself.  However, there’s true potential….but that’s all I’m saying.

Health: 8

I kind of slacked off the past week in terms of weight training and my classes, but I’ll be back on track beginning next week since I’ll be training for a competition in Singapore.

Wealth: 6

Now, I knew this month would be ugly, but I know I would be setting myself up big for the coming months.  After doing my pay for this month, I was extremely angry at my present job (soon to be past job) simply because I told myself that I would NEVER fall below a threshold.  Once I did, the ultimate rebellion would take place.  More in my podcast down below.

Family & Friends: Family — / Friends In Thailand – 9

From interviewing Rich, to now befriending an awesome guy by the name of Steve Pipe, and now having another wonderful trainer friend who’s Indian but born in Thailand.  This has been the most successful month in terms of friends IN MY LIFE.  Period.

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