Game Changers: Five Strategies For Eliminating Bad Habits

Your habits are learned; therefore, they can be unlearned. – Darren Hardy

It’s time to learn, unlearn, and relearn again.

You’re basically a boat/ship that’s anchored in.  For you to set sail in a new direction, it’s time to pull those anchors (bad habits) up, dispose of them, and drop new ones in (although you won’t sail…but you get the point).

You need to make that “why-power” strong enough that it overwhelms your urges for instant gratification.

  1. Identify your triggers.

Figuring out the 4 w’s: who, what, where, when.

  • Are you more than likely to act a certain way around certain people?
  • Is there a particular time of the day that you have something sweet?
  • Is there a particular meal that derails the rest of your accomplished meals?
  • What emotions tend to provoke your worst habits—stress, fatigue, anger, nervousness, boredom?
  • When do you experience those emotions? Who are you with, where are you, or what are you doing?
  • What situations prompt your bad habits to surface—going to work? Riding the bus? Coming in contact with specific individuals?
  • Take a closer look at your routines. What do you typically say when you wake up? When you’re on a coffee or lunch break? When you’ve gotten home from a long day?”

I’ve distanced myself from all teachers who I work with currently (for the next month) because I’m more prone to complain with them. I dropped out of the “whiney-bitch club” back in June of 2016, and I never looked back, either.

Between 1-4pm, I have a craving for my gummy bears.  Instead of having gummy bears by my side, I can have mixed fruit (natural sugar) instead — only if I prepare it.

Dinners, because they’re so late at night, completely throw off my entire day.  If I finish work at 7:40pm, I normally eat a very bad dinner if I don’t prepare thoroughly.  Moving to Bangkok and buying loads of grocers (because now I will have proper pantry space) is going to set me up for great breakfasts, lunches, and dinners.

I have an anxious feeling when I walk into my job.  Not only that, I’ve been having it for  year because my every move that’s being watched.  When I walk into those doors, I have a very peculiar feeling.  Sunday mornings, I walk pass the teachers room and see a group of men sitting in a circle talking about how bad life is.  What Did I Do: I found a new job and five new projects to get me out of a dead-end job.

Riding the bus gives me a very uneasy and tense-filled feeling.  What Did I Do: Today is the last day I’ll ever take the bus in Bangkok ever again (because geographical and demographic reasons).

What do I typically say when I wake up? Well, the past week has been stellar….so saying “thank you” is imbedded in my vocabulary book.  However, other people say “not again” on Monday morning.  What can you do to change that?

2. Clean House

“Get to scrubbin’. And I mean this literally and figuratively. If you want to stop drinking alcohol, remove every drop of it from your house (and your vacation house, if you have one). Get rid of the glasses, any fancy utensils or doo-dads you use when you drink, and those decorative olives, too. If you want to stop drinking coffee, heave the coffee maker, and give that bag of gourmet grounds to a sleepy neighbor. If you’re trying to curb your spending, take an evening and cancel every catalogue or retail offer that flies in through your mailbox or your inbox, so you won’t even need to muster the discipline to walk it from the front door to the recycle bin. If you want to eat more healthfully, clean your cupboards of all the crap, stop buying the junk food—and stop buying into the argument that it’s “not fair” to deny the other people in your family junk food just because you don’t want it in your life. Trust me; everyone in your family is better off without it. Don’t bring it into the house, period. Get rid of whatever enables your bad habits.”

Numbers 3-5 are in the podcast down below!

Podcast

Darren Hardy’s: Habit & Willpower

What is habit? Set of behaviors compounded over time.  All of us have habits stapled into our life that we’re not even aware of.  Sure, let’s point out the disgustingly destructive habits such as excessive drinking and smoking.  However, I can talk about other habits such as retweeting or getting in tweet wars with anonymous users who are online to troll others.  These are called “bad” habits.

Other habits we have are of course taking a shower (most of humanity, but not all), brushing our teeth, combing our hair, eating breakfast, etc.  This is all part of the program.

When we get rid of bad habits, what enables us to slide back into the same ol’ destructive habits? The slightest bit of uncomfortability.  A student of mine was talking about how he literally told a teacher, “I don’t want to learn from the book. I can read it at home. I want to speak.”  That’s EXACTLY what I’ve taught him for so long! Books can be read at home, but what can teachers give more? Nothing.  Most teachers mask themselves behind a book but they don’t know how to “teach” in general.  So, my student unwittingly pushed this particular teacher WAY out of his comfort zone – only for him later to say “oh, your student was a bit naughty.”  Oh, he was naughty because he forced you out of your comfort zone, ey?

I could be getting a little carried away, but teachers have a habit of NOT teaching.

In addition to this is willpower.  I feel this is one of the esoteric or metaphysical terms that athletes have created to “mask” another athlete as being “alpha.”  Willpower could be something that most people have who do Spartan Agoge’s, sure; but it’s definitely failed you and billions of others on this planet, too.  Let me give you an example.

You’ve tried willpower before and it’s failed you. You’ve set resolutions and you’ve let them go. You thought you were going to lose all that weight last time. You thought you’d make all those sales calls last year. Let’s “stop the insanity” and do something different so you can get different and better results.

Ring a bell?

Time to dive in!

Podcast #1

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/darren-hardy-habit

Podcast #2

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/darren-hardy-willpower-no-whypower-yes