A podcaster/pseudo-comedian (shots fired) by the name of Joe Roegan signed a $100 million-dollar contract with Spotify a few days ago. What does this mean? Spotify literally just stole not only one of the top YouTubers away but also destroyed Google and Apple podcasts. He will have to take all of his content off YouTube (except micro-snippets he can put on to promote) and move it to Spotify. Did Spotify lose 100 million? No, their market share skyrocketed and they profited 5 billion! What does this mean for YouTube, a company that has been de-platforming individuals for free-speech and perpetuate bullying, harassment, and trolling? Well, this could mean the end. LISTEN IN!
Ok, you guys wanted it, and here it is.
At the beginning of 2016, I started a podcast. Keep in mind that my followers on Twitter were LOSER sex tourists and my online persona, up to that point, was not very good. I constantly focused on the negative and the victimization of being a “black” teacher in Thailand.
Then came the man — also known as Napoleon Hill. Who’s Napoleon Hill? Well, you’ll have to google him, but this man ended up teaching me everything that I either had lost, or was completely unaware of. Those books became my podcasts in the beginning and that ended up pushing away the majority of those “losers” who followed me online.
Then came the Jack Canfield book, most notably — Principle #5: Believe In Yourself. While reading this just before my trip to Vietnam, I was reduced to tears. At that moment, there was a shift in my entire biochemistry, indicating that this victimhood no longer serves you. Getting rid of it didn’t happen overnight, but this was the beginning.
Lisa Nichols’ Abundance now came next, along with a few others, including Tim Ferriss’ 4-Hour Work Week and a couple of others. This was the beginning of the new me.
In 2017, I began to rebel. Hell, it started a couple months before. My work, which wasn’t suitable for me anymore, wasn’t fair in terms of work allocation. Some teachers got more work based on pre-conceived notions that they were better than other teachers. So, I told myself, even in early 2016, that I would start working outside to gain more notoriety and build a brand that I didn’t know I was building at the time. One after another, projects after projects, and “NO! I DON’T WANT YOUR CLASS IN THE MORNING!” — after another. This probably was my downfall at the company because I constantly denied work from them, leading to my ultimate plunge and being the “last in line” and the “dark little brother,” however, this was the beginning of my new life.
In October of 2017, I got removed from teaching at Toshiba in Pathumthani, citing me for the most outrageous comments imaginable that were completely untrue and irrelevant to my moving. Somebody had a bone to pick, and with two other white teachers, one having an insane amount of complaints, I was the odd one out (in a very unprofessional way). That following weekend, it was the comment “if you want to continue working here we need to have a meeting” that sent shivers of disgust, threats, and “Arsenio, it’s time to get the hell out of here” down my back. That moment, I made up in my mind that I was too good for these folks.
No one knew, but after learning that I had moved to the other side of town, they knew what was happening. I cancelled, didn’t want class, and want to be away from that place as much as possible because it gave me chest pains — literally.
At the same time, I was grinding and trying to find work. There were people saying “oh, this company decided this teacher over you because you’re white” and other deplorable comments. I knew I would scrape the bottom-of-the-barrel in regards to finding suitable language centers, but i kept at it.
Then March came. Job offers came over the next two months along with entrepreneurs, a content writer, and hundreds of other things.
At the beginning of the year, I made goals list. I made goals list for each category of my wheel of life, pin-pointing things that I wanted to do and how I wanted to grow. To this date, I’ve not only achieved those marks, but I think in some categories, like the social circle and personal development, I’m two years ahead.
I have a content writer, social circle consisting of graphic designers, mentors, marketing execs and coaches, double podcasts website that’s sky-rocketing, YouTube that’s climbing, messages and comments saying thank you.
In all of that, do you think this could’ve happened if I didn’t leave that old place of work? No way. I needed to leave there to create flow of goodness and change in my life.
See, the majority of the time, you guys get stuffed up in the now and personal wants. You’re control by the mainstream media, dying relationships, loser friends, terrible jobs. However, if you can just come to the awareness that if you let these things go, you will attract to you everything in life that you need to take you to the next level.
That’s a promise.
Upon the magnificent New Years, I’m literally positioning myself as the top ESL podcaster on the planet. I’m owning hashtags on Instagram. I’m teaching people all over the world and people want my services. See how that works? And this all came because I dumped an employer in F.E.A.R of not getting a new job.
Government schools, private schools, international schools….you name it. It’s all part of the “system” here in Thailand. One of my students recently asked me “why don’t you work at an international school and get better pay?” Well, let me break down the reasons WHY.
1) Freedom to Accept & Deflect
When I was working at a job recently (3.5 years and hated the last 1.5 years of it), I was being forced to teach at bad projects. I told the “head” teacher that one place was racist as hell, but he didn’t care and forced it down my throat by saying: “we expect to be the number one priority.” Guys, when you’re a solopreneur, you don’t have to be stressed to the max. I had a project at a bank during this time and he was telling me to “do this or go part-time” instead of compromising and saying, “ok, you don’t want to do it because of this. I understand.” That’s just historical thinking and it’s no wonder the place is completely collapsing to this day.
Just think about it. If I told my part-time banking job “no” at the time, I wouldn’t have gotten the dozens of other projects I have today. There’s always a ripple effect. I would’ve been doing for other assholes rather than achieving and gaining projects by myself. ALWAYS look out FOR you!
What I learned is you have to rebel. If a boss, coordinator or any other jackass starts to threaten you in the beginning stages, walk out. There’s absolutely no need to stay. I recall the most EVIL BOSS IN THE WORLD saying “I shouldn’t even give you a work permit or visa!” Like, I was an idiot to stay after being verbally insulted like that.
And what happened next was simply me going home, looking for another job — and found one. Left without telling them a god damn thing, too. That’s how I roll.
Freedom to Call the Shots
When you’re a solopreneur, you don’t have to report to a manager who has a 3-decade old perception of life. I don’t have to create grades for a soul. I’m calling my own shots and that’s the best thing to do. When someone comes to you and says, “I need this, I need that, this is the due date.” Ummm, f*** you….babe. I have my own due dates. That’s a BEAUTIFUL thing.
Freedom to Travel
Working at an international school in Thailand entails that you can only take holidays on specific periods. Ummm, no. I’m going to take a holiday whenever I want. When I come back, I better still have my job.
At my first language center job, I took holidays whenever I wanted until an OLD BRIT wanted to gain that control over me. Ummm, again, f*** you. I don’t give a damn how old you are. If you don’t respect my goals in life, bye. That feels SO GOOD. Never have I EVER had a job in the world that I can say, “hey, I won’t be here next week…I’m going to Cairo.” No way. In America, you get fired in the matter of seconds. Hell, in America you don’t even get a holiday. If you get a holiday….it’s going to be a permanent one. You’re just a number.
Freedom to Make Your Own Assets
If you want x amount for this month, done. If you want to work real hard this month, ok. If I want to teach online in the evening and call off the next day….perfection. Also, you don’t have middle-men/women. Most language centers in Thailand are corrupted. Their CEO’S try hosing the majority of the teachers. My last job made 90% and I made 10% working at a completely discombobulated company called Toshiba. Is that fair?
How about 20-25%?
Do you think that’s fair?
50%? Not bad, but now I’m 30 and I want my own projects.
So I’ll do 100% because at least the student knows where there money is going.
Here’s my Podcast and YouTube video down below to break it down in micro.
The most important questions that schools do not ask students. I’ve done this before, and I’ve also replicated what Vishen Lakhiani did in one of his videos. These questions are vastly important for a lot of people, but yet they go undiscovered because of outside influences. With the PDF that I provided below and with plenty of empty space, get your life back together and take charge NOW!
Here are some of the questions I’ve answered….
What is my life purpose? To inspire people with my voice all around the world; to build an organization that brings innovation to rural villages and focus on the core geniuses of individuals; to make learning English as easy as possible and build a thriving community where people can help one another on a daily basis.
What are my dreams?
What are my goals?
What am I grateful for?
What makes me happy? Running, speaking, living and laughing. I make sure I do my exercise once a day to bring that fulfillment that’s needed at the beginning of the day. I also speak (with my podcasts, live video, or YouTube) on a routine basis (and that’s teaching, too). I feel most alive when I’m speaking and working out; therefore, I’ve dedicated an amount of time to do these things.
How would I like to grow personally? Become a better empathic listener. To build and nurture my relationships and not let go so easily.
How would I like to grow spiritually?
What would my perfect relationship look like? Walking anywhere and anywhere in the world, unattached to “our” surroundings while blissfully laughing the day away. Interdependency and not having to rely heavily on one another like traditional relationships.
What would my ideal family life consist of?
What is something that I’ve always wanted to do?
What would I like more of in my life? Free time. I’m dedicating far too much time to something that students can learn with (and will learn with) through virtual reality in the coming years.
What would I like to do more of in my life? Enjoy the little things. Spontaneity.
Where would I like to travel? Mongolia, Kazakhstan, Cyprus, Gibraltar, Macedonia, Kenya, Egypt, Morocco, Fiji, Samoa, Norway, Sweden, Croatia, Costa Rica, Colombia, Chile, Panama.
Where would I like to live? For now, Asia. In about ten years, I want to establish my presence in South America where I’ll retire.
What career would I ideally choose or create for myself?
What are my financial goals?
How can I give back within my community?
Which causes or charities would I like to be more involved with?
If I could change the world, how would I make it a better place?
I’ve done a heavy dose of Facebook advertising over the years. When I launched my first YouTube video back in 2015, I sponsored the hell out of the video on my Facebook, which then turned into a few hundred likes and maybe a dozen views on the YouTube video. To this day, that has to be the most successful paid ad I’ve ever done.
Since then it’s been just downhill. You can have a reach of 10,000, but no link clicks. You can also run the ad on Instagram, and of course, that fails miserably (because Instagram generates scrollers who double tap). I was just having a conversation with my content writer about Facebook and how there’s an enormous amount of fake profiles.
In the first days of my FB, I would run ads in surrounding countries. Some people would like my page and I would get excited. So, I would click on their page and there would be just a lot of — scamming mess — on it.
Facebook does nothing to flag some of these profiles, but it remains a problem. Even those who actually promote a post (especially in America) can get dozens of trolls, trolling the hell out of his post for whatever reason.
Tai Lopez, who has run online ads everyone is so accustomed to seeing, would run ads on Instagram, handing out free Macbooks. These posts would generate a million likes. LITERALLY! How much did he pay for the ad? Not the slightest idea, but it worked.
So, I wanted to write a foreword and see if Gary Vee gives some good instructions in terms of how to run FB ads.
Ok, first, FB does have it’s advantages. It gives you pictures and written form, which YouTube doesn’t do.
“There’s no way long written content is getting traction on Snapchat, but on Facebook a thirteen-paragraph blog post will work. You can post pictures, and they’ll work. You can embed a SoundCloud audio play, and it will work. A thirteen-second video will work. So will a thirty-one-minute video. Facebook offers complete and utter creative flexibility and has the greatest ad-targeting product ever created. No one is too cool for Facebook. If you haven’t already done so, go to Facebook right now and register your fan page, because even if it’s not the place where you create the pillar content for your personal brand, it is where everything you do on every other platform will come to live for the remainder of your personal brand’s existence.”
Excerpt From: Gary Vaynerchuk. “Crushing It!.” iBooks.
I registered my fan/business page back in 2015, luckily. I recently just did a FB live video and got dozens of views, which is pretty good compared to the past. Facebook does have an array of advantages, but I do think the ad-targeting is the worst of them all — maybe.
I can say this that I’ve connected with people on FB that landed me a content writer who I’m working on big projects with at the moment. That’s pretty sensational. The first was two guys. We had brief conversations, but that was all. Then, I had a few others message me who I’m still friends with today. However, the big one was a guy named Luke Burrows, a mentor and coach in England. I did a podcast with him and another entrepreneur from Colorado. From those two, Jiun, who’s my content writer, found out about me. That was the deal breaker and now it continues to grow. There are some accounts that are shady as hell and sketchy that add me, but for the most part, I know how to handle those types of accounts.
It’s all about building awareness of your brand in a native, organic way. I can get lots of “paid reach,” but the organic side of the equation was always lacking.
“Mark Zuckerberg called video a “mega trend” of the same nature as mobile3 and has made it clear that video is Facebook’s future. In 2016, he told BuzzFeed, “I wouldn’t be surprised if you fast-forward five years and most of the content that people see on Facebook and are sharing on a day-to-day basis is video.”
Excerpt From: Gary Vaynerchuk. “Crushing It!.” iBooks.
“You might be thinking, I already make YouTube videos. I’ll just put them on Facebook. Two birds, one stone, done. Not so fast. Facebook’s algorithm will always give preferential treatment to native Facebook content. You’ll get far greater reach by creating an original video for Facebook than by recycling something from another platform. Does the video have great copy alongside it? Are the first three seconds captivating? Does it show an understanding of the mind-set of the Facebook demographic that would love to share it with a family member or friend? Does it compel an action right there and then? Video is still something of a novelty on Facebook, which means it has the potential to be noticed faster and get greater engagement than whatever you might post on YouTube.
That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t post on YouTube or anywhere else, of course, but do not underestimate the power that doubling down on Facebook could have on your brand. Facebook is the first platform that has combined the ability to do marketing, sales, and branding all in one place, and it is still vastly underpriced for the amount of attention you can get there from its nearly two billion monthly users.” – Gary Vee
While I was sitting on my couch, stuffing my face with pepperoni pizza (yes, I cheat sometimes, but blame my trainer that put me through a 1-hour gauntlet), I realized at that given moment what could’ve been.
Back in Las Vegas, my colleagues and I from the College of Southern Nevada’s Dental Faculty Practice would leave at 12pm, once a week, and head to a rundown food court. When you walk into this food court, you have a series of different eateries. You have Korean BBQ to the right, Hoagies from Philly on the left, and a few other (like the Mexican shop that opened for a month before closing). It’s difficult to stay afloat in a place like that for a long time, just because it’s in such a head-scratching and isolated location.
Nonetheless, there was a wing shop. Honestly, best wings ever….and it’s not even close. He had flavors from Garlic Pepper, to more than two dozen other kinds. He would constantly peer-pressure us into doing his crazy ass, super-duper-hot ass wing challenge — a challenge that often times had college students go into oblivion, puking all over the damn place (hate to be graphic).
Before I left, he was obtaining his liquor license. Today, I’m not exactly sure what’s happening, but now that I think of it, there’s a show called Hot Wings on YouTube that features some of the biggest stars in America.
Do you guys now know where I’m going with this?
In 2013, the man who had this shop never had the idea to put those wing challenges on YouTube.
Three years later, someone else did….and now he has 1-15 million views per video with stars all over America coming to chow down.
There’s opportunity everywhere….but remember, they come as crumbs most times. This is your warning. Whatever it is you can develop and monetize, take that leap of faith.
FYI – I just looked it up on google and luckily it’s still in business. However, that idea was never put to good use.
Oh, yes! Welcome back to another edition of the wheel of life, which is coming about 5 days earlier from when I normally debut it. I’m grateful as hell, regardless of all the things I’ve been through, but I do believe I’ve been looking in the wrong places.
Over the course of this month, it’s been a bit turbulent. Job offers but no jobs; a woman applying for jobs for me – only to tell me “they chose another teacher;” British language center (not my cup of tea) which said they would use me, but they never did.
These are all just forms in the road and it revolves a little bit around career. It’s been a bit wild in general, but it’s time to go over the month in it’s entirety!
Family & Friends – 4
Yeah, definitely a bit low from the last time. Remember the story about the Indian girl who’s a fitness trainer? Yeah, too much baggage, lies, voids and no trust. Dumped like a bad habit. I’ve also realized that one of my best friends is an afterthought now. This category took a ferocious hit this month.
Ok, the loose and unwanted baggage has been taking out. So what’s the next step? Nurture those life-time relationships I already have and don’t take the newcomers too seriously.
Family will always be family. Not much around but hear some motivating words from my family from time-to-time.
Health – 7
In terms of my healthy living, it’s extraordinary. I get enough sleep and I haven’t had any allergies whatsoever. My mileage on my runs continues to go up and I don’t feel extremely tired after my runs, either.
However, I lost my shape 🙁 I’m very diligent now with my funds until something is consistent, so I haven’t been joining my workout class twice-a-week like I normally did last year.
Fun & Hobbies – 6
This is a bit unchanged because nothing miraculous happened over this month.
Romantic Relationships – Hell No
That’s a big hell no, too.
Career – 10
YouTube hit the biggest peak just a few days ago with people in almost every country listening to me. It’s unbelievably fascinating and sooooo exciting! People are commenting, suggesting, recommending and speaking about me – on top of sharing my videos. So grateful!
Podcast hit some massive spikes over the past week. I’ve gotten some great downloads from countries such as Mauritius, and lots of isolated towns around America are figuring out about me. I mean it’s finally beginning to promote itself!
Blog/website is very enticing to say the least. I get sparks from Greece, Mexico, Tanzania and a few other countries, looking for my education blogs and whatnot.
The ultimate project I got could possibly land me residual income for the next 10 years, so now I’m hustling big time in terms of making practice tests and getting ready for the massive herd of people who are about to come in by the thousands – literally.
My graphic designer, who I probably will cut ties with soon, did my Facebook cover art and a few other things. However, having things put off and attitude is started to make me second guess everything. I think I will upgrade my wordpress site and install plugins. MAYBE!
This is probably the immediate things that are happening. Of course there are probably another half-dozen things that are taking place at the moment. I’m just TOO EXCITED!
I think what’s happening and what just happened with my primary job, as of today, was a blessing in disguise and made me rethink a couple of things, thanks to someone who cares about me.
Personal Development – 9
Found ET (Eric Thomas) YouTube channel, along with listening to Be Inspired (another YouTube channel) has really changed me a lot over the past several days. I’m literally on fire. I’ve been doing a lot of reading and converting so much of it to blogs and podcast.
Physical Environment – 8
Now, I’m dumping the trash out right now. Once that’s over, my environment should be at a consistent 10 every month. New jobs all around Bangkok, wonderful women that I work with, big projects and living in a gorgeous condo says it all.
Wealth – 7.5
Worst month in terms of salary in January at the burning trash dump (lol – I love creating nicknames for this place). However, I got my projects on board, teaching trainer project, and so many others are coming in. This month I’ll be in a very good surplus, but March, April, and May will determine the outcome of whether I stay or go to possibly Spain or France.
There’s been some confusion for some of my listeners to how and where to listen to my podcast. For example, people in England download my episodes from iTunes; on the other hand, people in California listen to it on their iPhone and iPod.
I’m going to throw a list and links down so you guys can follow me on which ever platform you choose.
- AppleCoreMedia iPhone
- Spreaker, Website
- AppleCoreMedia iPod
- AppleCoreMedia iPad
- Spreaker, iPhone
- ampproject.org (have no idea what this is)
- Spreaker, Android
- Generic Android App
- Podcast Addict
Here are the media platforms from the top-to-bottom that my podcast is on. Here are some links, too.
First time I saw Gary Vee was in a Tony Robbins video. Like a lot of other people; you either love him or hate him (well, hate it too strong of a word – so maybe dislike). The next time I saw one of his videos was when his opening intro went something like, “the man holding the camera said it was a rough day…..I don’t give a _________.”
From then on…I was sold. The marketing strategies, expertise in terms of social media, and how to build a brand catapulted me to great heights. When my podcast got quiet, I realized that patience and constant content creating would overcome the woes.
The Path Is Yours
While I was downloading a sample of this book, I was listening to a very-angry-45-year-old-male on a news channel rant at Gary about “why” social media has destroyed the world. I laughed. The comments in support of Gary were wonderful: “this guy is completely lost and out of touch with reality.” Yes, the Gen B’s and even what I’m dealing with at my current place of work, are lacking adaptability. For example, English conversation, which is something most non-native English speaking countries don’t give, is lacking in Thailand. I developed a curriculum that would amass millions upon millions of baht. However, there was a change in administration, and here came a out-of-touch-with-the-world Brit who criticized the curriculum, stating that it’s not “academic.” Oh, right…the academics that universities are spewing out to B.A. business students who are ineffective in the world of business – but they have made more money in six months listening to Gary Vee compared to the 4 years in school and 6 years after. Hmmmm…
So then with two shops closing and a huge decrease in work, I’m smiling, knowing the emergence of the Chinese market will land me a job that will never go away while this business will be “out-of-business.”
News outlets, and the people not willing to acclimate around the world, know that if you don’t….the world will continue moving on – whether you like it or not. Social media and the wondrous internet is here to stay. If these Gen B babies knew what was to come in the next ten years, they would put tin foil on their desks and jars of urine would be scattered all around them (Hassan joke).
Building a personal brand is an important aspect….and more importantly, if you’re going to become an influencer (or what to), this is imperative. Gary Vee has some insane stats in his book….
YouTube’s daily viewership is closing in on TV’s 1.25 billion hours per day, as television viewership falls every year.
One in every five minutes spent on mobile is spent on Facebook’s apps and services.
Every minute, 65,900 videos and photos are posted on Instagram.
Over 3 billion snaps are created each day on Snapchat, where over 60 percent of ads are watched with the audio on.
If you look at the likes of Logan Paul and Lilly Singh, they’re on the top of the grossing list, making tons by of course monetization. Look at Instagram. Look how many women are on there posing half-naked. Take a good count and just imagine how much they’re making by wearing or branding other people’s companies?
Although YouTube is a crazy market to break into, look how many views the channel by the name of “Top 5’s” is getting. He’s literally creating videos about top 5 everything around the world, and regardless of the dislikes that pour in, he’s making loads of money. I’m kind of kicking myself in the ass because back in 2012, I created a blog about my travels to Thailand (here), Japan, and Hawaii. Unfortunately I stopped….little did I know that could’ve expanded into a massive money-maker. Know that the opportunity is everywhere around you.
I’m an entrepreneur who built a $150 million media company in part because of my personal brand, which I developed by first creating valuable content that grew my influence. That’s one way to crush it. By all means, though, go ahead and make money over time by running ads, for example by selling ad space to a candy bar company. As your star rises, you could get paid $10k for placing a candy bar on your table while you work. But for God’s sake, don’t stop there. That’s where you start. Don’t leave money on the table because you don’t realize how much bigger you can get. How big? The internet is an entrepreneur’s oyster, and you can use its pearly platforms to build a personal brand so powerful that the world is not only willing to pay you for your products or services or to promote other people’s products and services, but also it might even be willing to pay you to just be you. To me, that is when you’ve become a true influencer. At its heigh, influencer marketing is reality TV 2.0. I want you to think of yourself as tomorrow’s newest star.
Who do you spend the most time with?
Honestly, ask yourself this question because within it lies the answer to all your sorrows. Are you constantly around negative people? Do I have to bring this up AGAIN? You are who your closest five friends are. Just do me a favor and drop one loser friend out of your life. Ok, if you don’t want to expunge the human being because he’s been your friend all your life, just reduce the amount of time you talk to him/her for. Go form speaking three times a day to him/her – to two times a day. It will make a difference.
When I first moved to Bangkok, I had no idea that I developed a hell of an intuition for the 11 months I was in Las Vegas (after my Australia visa finished). What happened was I had a friend. This friend had a “bad” job….not even sure how I met her (she was a soapy massage girl). When I met her for the second time ever, I saw the amount of bad energy she had. The feeling of pain (agony), discontent, anger, and depression that was around her was unbearable. I recall looking into her eyes at one point and I immediately looked away. When I left to my main province in job in southeast Thailand, I never spoke to her again.
Later, I had a couple friends by the name of Mook and Ploy who were very nice individuals. I realized then that I should probably be around nice people; rather than soapy massage girls (comical – I know).
Do you spend time around people who want more in life, or people who are considered “losers?”
Who are the people you most admire?
Ahhhh….the sound of Les Brown’s voice is amazing. Many of you reading this blog probably admire your parents, your best friends, even the dog down the road. By all means…we have different means of inspiration, but my parent (my mother…I don’t consider Willie my parent) fueled my inspiration in 2006 when she gave me all rights to my life. Magnificent human being. After that, I found my inspiration on YouTube in 2015 – the last year I constantly victimized myself. Lisa Nichols, Les Brown, Tony Robbins, Tim Ferris, Napoleon Hill, Dale Carnegie, and other books and videos disrupted my biochemistry and I began to believe in myself again – oh, most notably – Jack Canfield.
How about you? Do you admire sports stars? Or, do you admire historical figures of the past?
Are those two groups of people exactly the same?
They’re all the same in terms of inspiration and what they preach and teach about.
Eventually, over the course of x amount of months, whoever you spend time with most….you begin to eat what they eat, talk what they talk, walk how they walk, dress like they dress, treat people how they treat people, read what they read. You name it…you become it.
Think of a friend who orders the greasy food or cocktails before dinner (although I love me some oven-baked chicken and long islands from time-to-time), and if you hang out with them enough, you’ll know that it’s a very ugly habit. Just recently I met a girl who was saying, “I hate working out. It’s boring. It’s not fun. I’m lazy…and I like being fat.” Stay around someone like that long enough and you’ll become that person. Meanwhile, your other friends order healthy food and talk about the inspiring books they’re reading and their ambitions in their businesses, and you begin to assimilate their behaviors and habits. You read and talk about what they talk about, you see the movies they’re excited about, and you go to the places they recommend.
This was one of the biggest deciding factors in leaving America permanently. I knew if I had stuck around in my families sorrows, I too, would become part of their sorrows. The 11 months from June 2012 – May 2013 were some of the most difficult months of my life. The constant nagging, not having enough money comments, complaining about one’s boyfriend, bad-mouthing people from work….it wore me out. Luckily, I purchased a pair of Bose Headphones, which was one of the smartest purchases I’ve ever made in my life, in Australia earlier in 2012. Nonetheless, you can’t live a positive life around negative people.
So, ask yourself now: “what’s the combined average income, health, and attitudes of the people you spend the most time with?”
When I was in Australia last year, my ex-friend (yeah, my ex-friend) had become a nurse. Her income was much more than mine, but it inspired me. My best friend in New York makes more than me. That also inspires me. Those are, or were my closest friends. I don’t have to worry about this because I’m around my students the majority of the time. So after a long work day, I don’t go hang out with friends because I have to prepare everything for the next day.
However, you….the reader….you need to write down the names of those five people. Write down the main characteristics. Look at where they’re going in life, the relationships they have with other people. Is that list ok for you. Are you heading in the right direction?